Hi all,
After a year and an half of separation, several meetings with my lawyer and 3 meetings at court, all that's been accomplished is a basic temporary agreement that the EX refuses to respect. No idea of when any progress will be made. It's a mess and the more I attempt to 'educate' myself on how things should be done, the more I realize what little I know or what little I can do about any of it!
I read posts in here, search the Net for jurisprudence and relevant materials - end up more confused than when I started out. There are times when I feel secure in trusting my lawyer and waiting for a court date - other times when my patience runs out and I fear that I'm getting tossed under the bus by this farce we call the justice system. Finding balance is a struggle in any divorce ... the toughest part is having to place my trust and financial future in a stranger (lawyer) as I lack the knowledge or stamina to represent myself.
If I had any say-so, my divorce could have been settled a year ago. I know what I want, I know what the EX wants, we sign it, stamp it and GOD BLESS! Unfortunately, that's not how it works.
You want to know why so many of us suffer from depression at this time in our lives? It's not the break-up itself but rather the bureaucratic nightmare that sends people over the edge and off to therapy! I used to be a sane, reasonably cheerful person before all this! Nowadays I consider it a good day when I manage to get through it without having a meltdown. The frustration and sense of powerlessness is overwhelming at times...
I really admire those of you who have taken on the task of self representing. Sorry for the rant, I just needed to let off some steam ....
Jan
After a year and an half of separation, several meetings with my lawyer and 3 meetings at court, all that's been accomplished is a basic temporary agreement that the EX refuses to respect. No idea of when any progress will be made. It's a mess and the more I attempt to 'educate' myself on how things should be done, the more I realize what little I know or what little I can do about any of it!
I read posts in here, search the Net for jurisprudence and relevant materials - end up more confused than when I started out. There are times when I feel secure in trusting my lawyer and waiting for a court date - other times when my patience runs out and I fear that I'm getting tossed under the bus by this farce we call the justice system. Finding balance is a struggle in any divorce ... the toughest part is having to place my trust and financial future in a stranger (lawyer) as I lack the knowledge or stamina to represent myself.
If I had any say-so, my divorce could have been settled a year ago. I know what I want, I know what the EX wants, we sign it, stamp it and GOD BLESS! Unfortunately, that's not how it works.
You want to know why so many of us suffer from depression at this time in our lives? It's not the break-up itself but rather the bureaucratic nightmare that sends people over the edge and off to therapy! I used to be a sane, reasonably cheerful person before all this! Nowadays I consider it a good day when I manage to get through it without having a meltdown. The frustration and sense of powerlessness is overwhelming at times...
I really admire those of you who have taken on the task of self representing. Sorry for the rant, I just needed to let off some steam ....
Jan
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