My child is less than 3 1/2. My ex lives 30 minutes away. She wanted to put him in preschool with his cousin in her area (a free preschool), without my knowledge, but the child was just a few days too young to be eligible.
Now I wanna put him in preschool in September and I will pay the fees, but it will be in my area. She says no way. I think the child should go to school to learn English and other stuff. She said the child is better off with his cousin than with Canadian kids . (Wonder if judge would care about that statement).
Anyway, even though the child is happy here, plays with me, my family and daily goes out to play, he prefers it at his mom's because of his cousin, we believe. Here he has no friends and when I call him (or my mom) he refuses to talk by saying "I don't wanna go there". When they bring him, he often cries and takes 2 minutes until he calms down. When here he is sometimes saying he doesn't wanna go to mommy but does talk on the phone to her.
I don't know if there is any parental alienation involved. But this is my question. Once I do put him in preschool, I fear he might want to come here less, either because of school or my ex and her family telling him bad about me, out of anger that I put him to school.
In that case I would get a psychiatrist/therapist/CPS involved. If they don't find any parental alienation, if they find that the child simply likes it more there than here (Again, besides playing with his cousin I think he is better off here as he spends roughly 2/3 of the time here) and when they see he refuses to come here and refuses phone talk, could that be a reason to change custody agreement?
If we take a look at history, it was me who did most of the things that are in BIC, and I think enrolling him in preschool is also in child's best interest (correct me if I am wrong), but am afraid a judge may issue an order to change our shared custody agreement due to the fact that the child avoids coming here and talking to us on the phone. If therapist or CPS finds child is fine here but loves it more there, can that be a reason to grant full custody to the mother.
Or, When does the court make decision based on child's preference?
Now I wanna put him in preschool in September and I will pay the fees, but it will be in my area. She says no way. I think the child should go to school to learn English and other stuff. She said the child is better off with his cousin than with Canadian kids . (Wonder if judge would care about that statement).
Anyway, even though the child is happy here, plays with me, my family and daily goes out to play, he prefers it at his mom's because of his cousin, we believe. Here he has no friends and when I call him (or my mom) he refuses to talk by saying "I don't wanna go there". When they bring him, he often cries and takes 2 minutes until he calms down. When here he is sometimes saying he doesn't wanna go to mommy but does talk on the phone to her.
I don't know if there is any parental alienation involved. But this is my question. Once I do put him in preschool, I fear he might want to come here less, either because of school or my ex and her family telling him bad about me, out of anger that I put him to school.
In that case I would get a psychiatrist/therapist/CPS involved. If they don't find any parental alienation, if they find that the child simply likes it more there than here (Again, besides playing with his cousin I think he is better off here as he spends roughly 2/3 of the time here) and when they see he refuses to come here and refuses phone talk, could that be a reason to change custody agreement?
If we take a look at history, it was me who did most of the things that are in BIC, and I think enrolling him in preschool is also in child's best interest (correct me if I am wrong), but am afraid a judge may issue an order to change our shared custody agreement due to the fact that the child avoids coming here and talking to us on the phone. If therapist or CPS finds child is fine here but loves it more there, can that be a reason to grant full custody to the mother.
Or, When does the court make decision based on child's preference?
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