Hello all, quick question as I am extremely frustrated. This may be more of a rant and I am sorry.
Quick background. Daughter is 12-almost 13 years old. Ex and I separated when she was 1.5 years old.
Daughter lived with ex until she was 10 years old. Environment was terrible, drug abuse, constant moving, witnessing of very bad spousal abuse and weapons in the home. After an emergency motion I finally got custody switched, it had been years in the making.
Ex left that guy, immediately with someone else. Moved closer to her parents and has appeared to be clean for a bit.
2 years of scattered access between our daughter and her mom, no child support or scheduled access. Finally have a court order for access, which is 1 weekend and 1 saturday day visit a month. D12 must sleep at her maternal grandparents but can spend day with mom
That court order was made in January 2019.
Ex moved in May, and since then our daughter has visited her mom 3 times overnight. She is still not supposed to be sleeping at her moms but each visit she does. I have asked her to stop, and have out daughter go back to sleeping at her grandparents a few times but my ex just does not respond.
Our daughter now basically does not see her maternal grandparents who she has a very strong bond with and it was a significant part of why she wanted to visit her mom.
Last visit, her moms son was away at his paternal grandparents house, and her fiance was away. This should be a good 4 days of the summer for some mom/daughter time and for them to bond and have a blast doing stuff together right? Instead, her mom had 2 male friends over the entire time and spent the entire time in the kitchen with them ignoring our daughter. From Wednesday until I picked her up, she had not showered and has had several accidents (pee and feces). While here, we know that she has to be on a schedule as this does happen, we even got her a watch that vibrates every 2 hours to help her remember to go. Her mom let her take it off though and didn't monitor her at all. Our daughter spent all day and night on her phone or watching the TV by herself, not showering, not going to the bathroom properly, and not taking her meds. I try so hard to give my ex a chance, I do not want to sever their relationship further than it is already but I am just at a loss of what to do. She goes against everything she should be doing and then just ignores out daughter to spend time with these 2 random guys when her fiancee is out. My ex also has a very strong history of cheating as well. Her fiancee is a decent guy and seems to be a positive influence compared to others she has been with, but now it seems like life is going backwards again.
Thank you, I tried to keep it brief. She also has not paid child support since the order in January, though FRO did garnish her income tax return so our daughter got some of the CS she should be getting.
Quick background. Daughter is 12-almost 13 years old. Ex and I separated when she was 1.5 years old.
Daughter lived with ex until she was 10 years old. Environment was terrible, drug abuse, constant moving, witnessing of very bad spousal abuse and weapons in the home. After an emergency motion I finally got custody switched, it had been years in the making.
Ex left that guy, immediately with someone else. Moved closer to her parents and has appeared to be clean for a bit.
2 years of scattered access between our daughter and her mom, no child support or scheduled access. Finally have a court order for access, which is 1 weekend and 1 saturday day visit a month. D12 must sleep at her maternal grandparents but can spend day with mom
That court order was made in January 2019.
Ex moved in May, and since then our daughter has visited her mom 3 times overnight. She is still not supposed to be sleeping at her moms but each visit she does. I have asked her to stop, and have out daughter go back to sleeping at her grandparents a few times but my ex just does not respond.
Our daughter now basically does not see her maternal grandparents who she has a very strong bond with and it was a significant part of why she wanted to visit her mom.
Last visit, her moms son was away at his paternal grandparents house, and her fiance was away. This should be a good 4 days of the summer for some mom/daughter time and for them to bond and have a blast doing stuff together right? Instead, her mom had 2 male friends over the entire time and spent the entire time in the kitchen with them ignoring our daughter. From Wednesday until I picked her up, she had not showered and has had several accidents (pee and feces). While here, we know that she has to be on a schedule as this does happen, we even got her a watch that vibrates every 2 hours to help her remember to go. Her mom let her take it off though and didn't monitor her at all. Our daughter spent all day and night on her phone or watching the TV by herself, not showering, not going to the bathroom properly, and not taking her meds. I try so hard to give my ex a chance, I do not want to sever their relationship further than it is already but I am just at a loss of what to do. She goes against everything she should be doing and then just ignores out daughter to spend time with these 2 random guys when her fiancee is out. My ex also has a very strong history of cheating as well. Her fiancee is a decent guy and seems to be a positive influence compared to others she has been with, but now it seems like life is going backwards again.
Thank you, I tried to keep it brief. She also has not paid child support since the order in January, though FRO did garnish her income tax return so our daughter got some of the CS she should be getting.
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