Just a quick question as I've never really delved in to S7 or extra curricular stuff.
Currently, I have D5 in a really great Ballet class and Sparks. Here she has many friends, thoroughly enjoys it and is flourishing like crazy. The ballet is the big expense.
My question is this ... my ex is not contributing to anything extra curricular, but sees the benefits (social/emotional, etc), the friends she's made and all the other good stuff associated with being in these 2 clubs.
She still ha me paying offset CS and is still underemployed, babysitting one child at pretty much minimum wage .. while she is fully bilingual and educated with a degree.
Would it be wrong of me to ask her to contribute a bit towards .. say the ballet recital costume? Or a portion of these costs? Or at least lower CS while I'm paying this stuff? It's just hard for me to understand because her bilingualism and education could land her a job that easily pays more than I get right now .. in which case I would be receiving offset..which would help pay for this stuff. ButI don't really want to go down the "underemployed" road.
Before posters say to take the child out if I can't afford it .. I can afford it but it's getting tougher. But we all see the benfits and she's made many friends. We can't simply pull her out.
Is it normal to ask my ex to help out a bit? As an equal parent (I'm paying for everything for D5...ie. school supplies, clothing, book bags, extra curricular's e..as well as normal expenses of a 50/50 parent)
What are the chances we can even things out just a little bit?
Thanks
Currently, I have D5 in a really great Ballet class and Sparks. Here she has many friends, thoroughly enjoys it and is flourishing like crazy. The ballet is the big expense.
My question is this ... my ex is not contributing to anything extra curricular, but sees the benefits (social/emotional, etc), the friends she's made and all the other good stuff associated with being in these 2 clubs.
She still ha me paying offset CS and is still underemployed, babysitting one child at pretty much minimum wage .. while she is fully bilingual and educated with a degree.
Would it be wrong of me to ask her to contribute a bit towards .. say the ballet recital costume? Or a portion of these costs? Or at least lower CS while I'm paying this stuff? It's just hard for me to understand because her bilingualism and education could land her a job that easily pays more than I get right now .. in which case I would be receiving offset..which would help pay for this stuff. ButI don't really want to go down the "underemployed" road.
Before posters say to take the child out if I can't afford it .. I can afford it but it's getting tougher. But we all see the benfits and she's made many friends. We can't simply pull her out.
Is it normal to ask my ex to help out a bit? As an equal parent (I'm paying for everything for D5...ie. school supplies, clothing, book bags, extra curricular's e..as well as normal expenses of a 50/50 parent)
What are the chances we can even things out just a little bit?
Thanks
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