Yeah, I did all that trying to save the marriage stuff. The other half wasn't interested in participating in the process. A marriage isn't one of those team projects that can still succeed if one person isn't pulling their own weight.
I don't think you can measure happiness in a before and after way. I was happy before the marriage fell apart, and I am differently happy now, years later.
People marry because they are optimists. People divorce because they become realists.
Maybe my children won't do as well in school as they would have otherwise. But they won't grow up thinking a bad marriage is normal and acceptable. It's impossible to compare which of those is the better outcome.
I don't think you can measure happiness in a before and after way. I was happy before the marriage fell apart, and I am differently happy now, years later.
People marry because they are optimists. People divorce because they become realists.
Maybe my children won't do as well in school as they would have otherwise. But they won't grow up thinking a bad marriage is normal and acceptable. It's impossible to compare which of those is the better outcome.
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