My 17 year old daughter has runaway/moved out because she did not like the house rules. I share custody with her father. He lives several hours away although I am her primairy care giver. She has moved in with her 18 year old boyfriend and his family (within our own community) and continues to attend school. I had a good relationship with my daughter prior to this relationship but I strongly suspect that that she is being emotionally abused by her boyfriend, I found evidence of drug use in her room and the boyfriend has lost his licence for DUI. His family is known to the police for several minor charges. I am terrified for her and heartbroken.
My ex husband refuses to communicate with me on the matter. We have been apart for 5 years now and he uses our child to manipulate me and undermines my authority with her while she lives in my home at every level. I continue to support the relationship and have never spoken ill of him or prevented contact. He does however take her side at every single chance and puts me down often (I read her text messages a few time - I bought the phone and I pay the bill). He had not even met the boyfriend until the day he showed up on my doorstep and demanded her belongings to move her in with the boyfriend. I refused saying that we need to parent united and communicate with our daughter about the serious consequences involving her moving out. He went to the local police, who warned him about the family. He continued to assist her in moving out (I surrendered some of her belongings). I was told I cannot prevent her from going.
I begged for her to remain at home where she has every comfort in the world and my fiance and I can generously provide for her future. She refuses to come home. She has been gone 2 weeks. She claims when the school year is out that she will be moving in with her father with her boyfriend joining them.
I am reeling from the emotional downfall of my daughter living with someone in a possibly emotional abusive relationship with her father's support. And of course I am devastated to have her leave my care so early. She wishes as I said above to move in with ther father for her final school year in September. She will not turn 18 until next February.
My questions are many and I will present the legal and financial ones here...
1) What are my legal obligations should she break the law as a 17 year old? Am I financially liable if she is sued for example?
2) What do I do with my child support cheques? I asked my ex and he won't answer most of emails (we do not speak) other than to say "ask your lawyer".
3) Why would he say that? I have been told that if she leaves parental care (his and mine which she has done NOW) that I am no longer financially liable for her or am not entitled to any child support.
4) If she decided to move back in with me (for example 4 months from now - remember she will be 18 in 11 months) am I entitled to child support again?
5) If she carries through with her plans to move in with her father and bring her boyfriend in September - am I obligated legally to pay my ex child support even though she had left parental care for several months prior?
Thank you. My head is spinning...
My ex husband refuses to communicate with me on the matter. We have been apart for 5 years now and he uses our child to manipulate me and undermines my authority with her while she lives in my home at every level. I continue to support the relationship and have never spoken ill of him or prevented contact. He does however take her side at every single chance and puts me down often (I read her text messages a few time - I bought the phone and I pay the bill). He had not even met the boyfriend until the day he showed up on my doorstep and demanded her belongings to move her in with the boyfriend. I refused saying that we need to parent united and communicate with our daughter about the serious consequences involving her moving out. He went to the local police, who warned him about the family. He continued to assist her in moving out (I surrendered some of her belongings). I was told I cannot prevent her from going.
I begged for her to remain at home where she has every comfort in the world and my fiance and I can generously provide for her future. She refuses to come home. She has been gone 2 weeks. She claims when the school year is out that she will be moving in with her father with her boyfriend joining them.
I am reeling from the emotional downfall of my daughter living with someone in a possibly emotional abusive relationship with her father's support. And of course I am devastated to have her leave my care so early. She wishes as I said above to move in with ther father for her final school year in September. She will not turn 18 until next February.
My questions are many and I will present the legal and financial ones here...
1) What are my legal obligations should she break the law as a 17 year old? Am I financially liable if she is sued for example?
2) What do I do with my child support cheques? I asked my ex and he won't answer most of emails (we do not speak) other than to say "ask your lawyer".
3) Why would he say that? I have been told that if she leaves parental care (his and mine which she has done NOW) that I am no longer financially liable for her or am not entitled to any child support.
4) If she decided to move back in with me (for example 4 months from now - remember she will be 18 in 11 months) am I entitled to child support again?
5) If she carries through with her plans to move in with her father and bring her boyfriend in September - am I obligated legally to pay my ex child support even though she had left parental care for several months prior?
Thank you. My head is spinning...
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