I will try to make this short..
Ex and I have been in disagreement over hockey for our 2 sons for 5 years now. In the beginning I voiced all my reasons and concerns why I was against it. It all started with ex insisting on rec hockey. I disagreed as I knew she would end up wanting it to go competitive. And I did not want my children to get passionate about a sport that I would not consent to. She fought me on this for 2 years and finally I compromised and said if we keep it rec only and it will not effect my weekend visits then I will agree. If this is what they like to do. However I will not be paying as it is not a extra ordinary extra curricular activity. She gets full table amout of $1800 a month.
She even emailed me in writing saying it will never be competitive and we will deal with that if the time came. Well this past year one son dropped out he did not like rec hockey but the other one she took upon herself to list him in competitive hockey against my wishes and did not tell me until after he was enrolled. I actually had to hear about it from my 8yr old son telling me mom is putting me in competitive hockey...about 2 weeks before she told me.
She told me she is not asking for costs as she just got a $2 million dollar settlement and that she talked to the hockey association and told them my son would only be able to play every other weekend and told me they were cool with it. She said it was important he still come and see me
Son started competitive hockey Oct and come end of November ex started telling me that she is going to be picking up my son on my time to take him to his games. That he is really really good and the coach doesn't want him missing out. This obviously didn't go well and I told her no. She argued and argued and argued. I had plans to take boys hunting that day so because I said no to her taking my son on my time she told me she wont allow kids to go hunting.
In the mean time ex has went to her lawyer and tells me that I can not legally keep my son away from sport if that is what he wants to do. I feel it would have never got to this point if she would not have just accepted my concerns and did not enroll him.
#1 they live 2 hours away and the kids games are all north of where they live making it even further away - we would be travelling 6 hours round trip on saturdays and I would have to wake all 4 of my children (one being a baby) at 5am to leave by 6am to be at his game by 9am - game lasts 2 hours - then turn around and drive home....all while having to drive a 4 hour round trip the next day to take the kiddos home. I only get Friday at 2 until Sunday at 4 with them EOW.
#2 i would like to take my kids hunting and ice fishing in the winter when they are with me - now I can not share that with one of my sons and I also have to give that up with the other as she is forcing me into hockey
#3 obviously it is a time restraining sport not to mention costly and something I can not afford and my job is dispatched I can not commit to taking my son to his games as i can often be dispatched the night before or even 2 hours before
#4 i dont feel it is fair that my ex can schedule my time or tell me what I can do on my time with my children
Do I have any leg to stand on here? She tells me that she is willing to pay and do all the travelling then when there is any leway from me she starts saying but it would be nice if you took him on your weekends.
I still do not consent to this. However she already has my son in it and now going against everything she said and wanting me to contribute $ and schedule my weekends around hockey ... which would be much easier to do if I could commit to taking him but I cant cause of my job and he is in central alberta hockey association and where I live we are southern....the distances i would have to drive allll weekend is just not going to be possible.
Suggestions? Will I be court ordered to take him to his hockey on my time?
Ex and I have been in disagreement over hockey for our 2 sons for 5 years now. In the beginning I voiced all my reasons and concerns why I was against it. It all started with ex insisting on rec hockey. I disagreed as I knew she would end up wanting it to go competitive. And I did not want my children to get passionate about a sport that I would not consent to. She fought me on this for 2 years and finally I compromised and said if we keep it rec only and it will not effect my weekend visits then I will agree. If this is what they like to do. However I will not be paying as it is not a extra ordinary extra curricular activity. She gets full table amout of $1800 a month.
She even emailed me in writing saying it will never be competitive and we will deal with that if the time came. Well this past year one son dropped out he did not like rec hockey but the other one she took upon herself to list him in competitive hockey against my wishes and did not tell me until after he was enrolled. I actually had to hear about it from my 8yr old son telling me mom is putting me in competitive hockey...about 2 weeks before she told me.
She told me she is not asking for costs as she just got a $2 million dollar settlement and that she talked to the hockey association and told them my son would only be able to play every other weekend and told me they were cool with it. She said it was important he still come and see me
Son started competitive hockey Oct and come end of November ex started telling me that she is going to be picking up my son on my time to take him to his games. That he is really really good and the coach doesn't want him missing out. This obviously didn't go well and I told her no. She argued and argued and argued. I had plans to take boys hunting that day so because I said no to her taking my son on my time she told me she wont allow kids to go hunting.
In the mean time ex has went to her lawyer and tells me that I can not legally keep my son away from sport if that is what he wants to do. I feel it would have never got to this point if she would not have just accepted my concerns and did not enroll him.
#1 they live 2 hours away and the kids games are all north of where they live making it even further away - we would be travelling 6 hours round trip on saturdays and I would have to wake all 4 of my children (one being a baby) at 5am to leave by 6am to be at his game by 9am - game lasts 2 hours - then turn around and drive home....all while having to drive a 4 hour round trip the next day to take the kiddos home. I only get Friday at 2 until Sunday at 4 with them EOW.
#2 i would like to take my kids hunting and ice fishing in the winter when they are with me - now I can not share that with one of my sons and I also have to give that up with the other as she is forcing me into hockey
#3 obviously it is a time restraining sport not to mention costly and something I can not afford and my job is dispatched I can not commit to taking my son to his games as i can often be dispatched the night before or even 2 hours before
#4 i dont feel it is fair that my ex can schedule my time or tell me what I can do on my time with my children
Do I have any leg to stand on here? She tells me that she is willing to pay and do all the travelling then when there is any leway from me she starts saying but it would be nice if you took him on your weekends.
I still do not consent to this. However she already has my son in it and now going against everything she said and wanting me to contribute $ and schedule my weekends around hockey ... which would be much easier to do if I could commit to taking him but I cant cause of my job and he is in central alberta hockey association and where I live we are southern....the distances i would have to drive allll weekend is just not going to be possible.
Suggestions? Will I be court ordered to take him to his hockey on my time?
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