Originally posted by dadtotheend
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Learn reading comprehension sir.
I know you are really busy what with having a big huge forum waiting for you to reply to every single thing said by anyone anywhere but you`d come off as less of a joke when you tell me to learn how to spell.
stuff = mental health, school. When he was building his career and getting his life sorted I took care of her without any help from him. I don`t think it is unreasonable to want a trade off, although I`d certainly want a bazillion times more visits than he ever decided to take for himself.
It`s besides the point he is not capable of being that support. He has proven this to me in dozens and dozens of ways over years now.
If he wants more time with his daughter I`d be willing to move closer, I`d be willing to let him have her as often as possible in a way that will not effect E`s life in a bad way (no missing school etc) but I`d need help and support to do this from him. He offers none.
I genuinely want them to have a relationship but I maintain that without one hell of a lot of work and improvement he is not suitable. I have never seen him be anything but a fun playmate when it suited his needs, or not there.
re judging:
Yes of course I am judging his parenting I was distinguishing between judging his parenting (which I have every reason and right to do in this situation) and judging him as a human being overall (which I do not).
His life choices for himself are absolutely none of my business unless it pertains to our daughter..
If he`s not even around her, the amount of beer he drinks is none of my business.
If he is being a caregiver then I feel it is my right to judge his smoking, drinking, and overall irresponsible lifestyle.
I didn`t realize that a support forum would be like essay writing. I have to write well thought out, spelled correctly essays on a regular basis. I get really high marks so I`m going to assume I`m fairly good at doing it when I care..
It seems really really pretentious to care here.
DADTO: I notice you around the boards a LOT..
I notice you find the time to answer prettymuch everyone and everything really quickly.
You`re not getting paid for this and as far as I can tell other than the lip service gratitude of giving you a fancy poster status you`ve got no more or less power on here than anyone else.
Perhaps I`m wrong, feel free to correct me if you`re actually important here.
I know you have a gang of friends here. I`m sure your friendships have been a valuable source of support and entertainment and I do not mean to imply that you are unimportant to your pals on the forum.
I do however maintain that whoever owns the board here likely doesn`t know or care that you exist and your entire demeaner would suggest otherwise. *eye roll*
The tone of your answers and the complete lack of class you display when someones minor spelling or board posting infractions irritate you make me literally Laugh outloud.
Maybe youre not aware what internet forum addiction can do to a person but I`m gonna let you in on a little secret.
When you spend too much time (as you clearly do here) in an internet place, you get bored. With boredom comes much much less tolerance for anything even remotely annoying. In your case, spelling. When you`re annoyed youre no longer enjoying yourself, thus creating the cycle of the miserable internet addict.
I am effective in communicating my ideas so your intolerance of my careless spelling is your problem. Don`t make it mine.
Kindly do not post snarky replies to anything I say, I`m not interested in your opinion on my grammar. If it is to poor for you to bear simply move along and do not comment.
I welcome and look forward to any positive or constructive things you`d like to share with me in the future
-C
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