Hi as you can see this is my first post and would like to get some feedback and advice. Two weeks ago my common law partner of 9 years walked out…with no warning at all. He left me an email telling me he wasn’t coming home. All I could think of was what a cruel April Fools Joke he was playing on me. He left me alone with 3 children, 2 belong to him and one from my previous marriage.
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He has agreed to let us stay in the home (which is in his name only) and he will continue to pay for the mortgage payments, house insurance, property taxes,etc. He also left me with the vehicle (which is also in his name only) he said he will pay for the remaining loan on that as well. Our family also spent the summers with our travel trailer at a nearby park, yes the trailer is in his name only and he wants to pay for that as well. We operated a home based business together as well, yes that too is in his name. He also has a full time job. He wants me to continue with the business because he knew how much I enjoyed it, okay, since I have been out of the job force for 10 years I guess it would be my only option to continue with it.
I guess you are wondering why did you leave everything in his name, well I went through a divorce 10 years ago and lost everything including my job, home, possessions and all my good credit etc. I did walk away with sole custody of my 1<SUP>st</SUP> son, which is all I wanted anyways. I had creditors after me and still do 10 years later, so we thought it would be best for him to leave everything in his name. I never thought we would ever be apart. <O</O
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He does not want to speak with me, so our only means of communication is via email. It has been a horrendous 2 weeks but I need to move on with my life, especially for my children (who he has not seen since the day he left). Honestly I am just shocked…he was and still is the best thing to happen to me and I just cannot understand why he would just leave. He was the best dad and to think of what he has just done to our kids, breaks my heart.<O</O
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This is my dilemma, could we still enter into a separation agreement stating out everything he is responsible for and what I am responsible for? I know he feels guilty for walking out on his family…and he has agreed to stand up and support his children, I guess this is his way of feeling better about himself.<O</O
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Would a separation agreement help, in the event that he does eventually decide to pull the rug from under us?? I know it could/will happen eventually but I need to protect my children. I will not deal with lawyers ever again and go through years of battles…sorry did that once and it cost me a fortune. Plus he has agreed to put everything in writing. Does anyone know where I can obtain one?<O</O
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So for now I am just living in the meantime.<O</O
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Thanks for listening <O</O
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He has agreed to let us stay in the home (which is in his name only) and he will continue to pay for the mortgage payments, house insurance, property taxes,etc. He also left me with the vehicle (which is also in his name only) he said he will pay for the remaining loan on that as well. Our family also spent the summers with our travel trailer at a nearby park, yes the trailer is in his name only and he wants to pay for that as well. We operated a home based business together as well, yes that too is in his name. He also has a full time job. He wants me to continue with the business because he knew how much I enjoyed it, okay, since I have been out of the job force for 10 years I guess it would be my only option to continue with it.
I guess you are wondering why did you leave everything in his name, well I went through a divorce 10 years ago and lost everything including my job, home, possessions and all my good credit etc. I did walk away with sole custody of my 1<SUP>st</SUP> son, which is all I wanted anyways. I had creditors after me and still do 10 years later, so we thought it would be best for him to leave everything in his name. I never thought we would ever be apart. <O</O
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He does not want to speak with me, so our only means of communication is via email. It has been a horrendous 2 weeks but I need to move on with my life, especially for my children (who he has not seen since the day he left). Honestly I am just shocked…he was and still is the best thing to happen to me and I just cannot understand why he would just leave. He was the best dad and to think of what he has just done to our kids, breaks my heart.<O</O
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This is my dilemma, could we still enter into a separation agreement stating out everything he is responsible for and what I am responsible for? I know he feels guilty for walking out on his family…and he has agreed to stand up and support his children, I guess this is his way of feeling better about himself.<O</O
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Would a separation agreement help, in the event that he does eventually decide to pull the rug from under us?? I know it could/will happen eventually but I need to protect my children. I will not deal with lawyers ever again and go through years of battles…sorry did that once and it cost me a fortune. Plus he has agreed to put everything in writing. Does anyone know where I can obtain one?<O</O
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So for now I am just living in the meantime.<O</O
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Thanks for listening <O</O
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