Alright, so I felt strong (enough to hold a conversation without crying), keep in mind that this wasn't my decision, nor do I want to leave. I felt I wanted the financial cards on the table to see where his head was at. After me quittting my job 5yrs ago to come live with him and work within his farming business. After me leaving my family and friends behind for him. (No pity party required, I'm smart enough to know it was my choice) After me selling my car as it wasn't needed. After me living here for 5yrs, working within his business at $1000.00/month salary. After me, doing all the bookkeeping, migrant worker program, food safety audits stuff, basically "the books" in our business as well as the growing/packing end. After all my furniture/appliances and such were given to our migrant workers. After I did all the household chores (which I did actually love doing). After me, raising his 3 children and my 1 child....
I'm faced with ....You need to leave as 2/3 kids (teens) don't like you anymore and won't come back for their scheduled 2 weeks/month with us unless I'm gone.
So...I must leave in search of a home, vehicle, job and means to support my daughter and I...this much I've accepted.
So, I went out to the barn yesterday and said, "what's your ballpark number to make sure my daughter and I are ok"....he said $5000.00 plus I he'll sign over the company truck (2003 Avalanche, 127k's, needs work.
I said, "ok, I'll give that number a thought".....I stayed awake all last night....thinking.
I don't think it's fair, but I don't want to be greedy either. I wanted to do this without lawyers. I basically wanted to say "well, I could get this, but I'll settle for this"....I just don't know what "this is what I could go for amount is"....I'll give you some numbers, if there's anyone out there who has an idea of what is fair, reply!
Home: 200,000.00...has NO mortgage
Vehicles: 2003 Avalanche, 2008 Avalanche, shipping truck...ALL PAID FOR
Credit Cards: $ZERO balance on all (limits as high as $40,000) as of today's current date
Personal line of credit: ZERO balance as of Jan (can't find statement beyond thus far yet)
Investments: $28,000.00
Business: $400,000 mortgage between him and his mother left.
He's a Farmer, and farmers can hide money very well. I never questioned why his T-4 was only $4500.00 each year..."Don't worry, it's a farming thing"....well I'm beginning to worry now!
Everything is in his name.
This is what I want.....
1. A reliable used car. (my brother's a salesman and he said with the truck trade in and buying a used Demo...he thinks he could find me something for $3500.00
2. My "wage" for the rest of the year (my "leave" date is July 1st) so we're talking my wage from June-Dec= $6000.00 (my rent while I look for a job)
3. $5000.00 cash for furnishings/appliances/car insurance/utility hook-ups and such....everything will be bought used.
Basically $15,000.
He won't lose the business, his home, his kids college funds, vehicles and such. BUT, I am losing (besides the love of my life)... security. I am being asked to leave. I do have a rental property lined up, and he DID give me first and last months rent as he says he feels guilty...$2000.00. So, on the brightside, I do have a place, rented without actually viewing it except online as I'm returning back to my roots and would unrealistic to go view a home far away. However, that's great...but...how am I going to pay for it...his response was "I'll give you a good reccomendation, you're smart". I know I'll find a job, I've never not had a job since I was 9. That's not the point though...I move in, and start applying..but what if I can't find anything right away? One can "hope for the best"...but "one also has to be wise"
So give me an insight to what "you" would do in my shoes. And, I won't be offended if you say "what you're asking is too much" but I just need reason's why as my brain's been a bit clouded by all the "love lost" stuff.
Thanks!
That's all I'd need to "begin again"...HOWEVER, is "all I need" ok to ask for...looking for truth here...am I being naive, is this too muich to ask for?
I'm faced with ....You need to leave as 2/3 kids (teens) don't like you anymore and won't come back for their scheduled 2 weeks/month with us unless I'm gone.
So...I must leave in search of a home, vehicle, job and means to support my daughter and I...this much I've accepted.
So, I went out to the barn yesterday and said, "what's your ballpark number to make sure my daughter and I are ok"....he said $5000.00 plus I he'll sign over the company truck (2003 Avalanche, 127k's, needs work.
I said, "ok, I'll give that number a thought".....I stayed awake all last night....thinking.
I don't think it's fair, but I don't want to be greedy either. I wanted to do this without lawyers. I basically wanted to say "well, I could get this, but I'll settle for this"....I just don't know what "this is what I could go for amount is"....I'll give you some numbers, if there's anyone out there who has an idea of what is fair, reply!
Home: 200,000.00...has NO mortgage
Vehicles: 2003 Avalanche, 2008 Avalanche, shipping truck...ALL PAID FOR
Credit Cards: $ZERO balance on all (limits as high as $40,000) as of today's current date
Personal line of credit: ZERO balance as of Jan (can't find statement beyond thus far yet)
Investments: $28,000.00
Business: $400,000 mortgage between him and his mother left.
He's a Farmer, and farmers can hide money very well. I never questioned why his T-4 was only $4500.00 each year..."Don't worry, it's a farming thing"....well I'm beginning to worry now!
Everything is in his name.
This is what I want.....
1. A reliable used car. (my brother's a salesman and he said with the truck trade in and buying a used Demo...he thinks he could find me something for $3500.00
2. My "wage" for the rest of the year (my "leave" date is July 1st) so we're talking my wage from June-Dec= $6000.00 (my rent while I look for a job)
3. $5000.00 cash for furnishings/appliances/car insurance/utility hook-ups and such....everything will be bought used.
Basically $15,000.
He won't lose the business, his home, his kids college funds, vehicles and such. BUT, I am losing (besides the love of my life)... security. I am being asked to leave. I do have a rental property lined up, and he DID give me first and last months rent as he says he feels guilty...$2000.00. So, on the brightside, I do have a place, rented without actually viewing it except online as I'm returning back to my roots and would unrealistic to go view a home far away. However, that's great...but...how am I going to pay for it...his response was "I'll give you a good reccomendation, you're smart". I know I'll find a job, I've never not had a job since I was 9. That's not the point though...I move in, and start applying..but what if I can't find anything right away? One can "hope for the best"...but "one also has to be wise"
So give me an insight to what "you" would do in my shoes. And, I won't be offended if you say "what you're asking is too much" but I just need reason's why as my brain's been a bit clouded by all the "love lost" stuff.
Thanks!
That's all I'd need to "begin again"...HOWEVER, is "all I need" ok to ask for...looking for truth here...am I being naive, is this too muich to ask for?
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