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Old 11-08-2013, 11:18 AM
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My guess would be that she wants to change CS due to expecting and does not want it in writting but that just a guess. IMO.

Ex's never seem to go away! Good luck!
This is my guess.

Is this considered a material change in circumstances?
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Old 11-08-2013, 11:21 AM
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Is this considered a material change in circumstances?
That certainly is a change in material circumstance.
However, assuming it is not you she is pregnant by, your CS obligations are not affected by how many children he has. Only by how many children she has by you.
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Old 11-08-2013, 11:25 AM
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That certainly is a change in material circumstance.
However, assuming it is not you she is pregnant by, your CS obligations are not affected by how many children he has. Only by how many children she has by you.
I'm thinking she's going to tell me she can't drive the kids to school on her days...since she will be on Mat leave...

I pay off-set and her income will no doubt go down.

Again I'm totally speculating...Best to wait to hear what she actually needs to say...

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Old 11-08-2013, 11:30 AM
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I'm thinking she's going to tell me she can't drive the kids to school on her days...since she will be on Mat leave...

I pay off-set and her income will no doubt go down.

Again I'm totally speculating...Best to wait to hear what she actually needs to say...
If that was the case, would that be intentional underemployment?
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Old 11-08-2013, 11:33 AM
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I'm thinking she's going to tell me she can't drive the kids to school on her days...since she will be on Mat leave...
In conjunction with her choice to move out of the child's primary area, to move to another city, if I recall correctly?
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In conjunction with her choice to move out of the child's primary area, to move to another city, if I recall correctly?
Correct.

I have maintained that it is her intention, and have confirmation of this plan from a third party (hearsay), to eventually get the kids registered at school in her new city.

That is why she was so angry when I gave our separation agreement to the school where it outlined that the children are to remain in that school.
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Old 11-08-2013, 12:13 PM
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She's just being dramatic. It could be anything. Speculating at this point is just a waste of your time and energy.

Unless she's trying to plot illegal activity with you, there is nothing that can't be communicated in an email.

If it is a pregnancy, then make her take you to court to change the CS, and try to have her imputed to her normal income because having children is a choice that should be made with taking her current financial obligations into consideration. Rent doesn't go down while people are on mat leave. Nor should CS. And if she can't drive the children to school, offer to take them full time during the school year during her mat leave. Your agreement about them staying in the current school shouldn't change.
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Old 11-08-2013, 12:30 PM
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If it is a pregnancy, then make her take you to court to change the CS, and try to have her imputed to her normal income because having children is a choice that should be made with taking her current financial obligations into consideration...
...Your agreement about them staying in the current school shouldn't change.
Very much in agreement with this.
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She's just being dramatic. It could be anything. Speculating at this point is just a waste of your time and energy.

Unless she's trying to plot illegal activity with you, there is nothing that can't be communicated in an email.

If it is a pregnancy, then make her take you to court to change the CS, and try to have her imputed to her normal income because having children is a choice that should be made with taking her current financial obligations into consideration. Rent doesn't go down while people are on mat leave. Nor should CS. And if she can't drive the children to school, offer to take them full time during the school year during her mat leave. Your agreement about them staying in the current school shouldn't change.
^^^^ Rioe is very smart.

There is case law to this point... If you need someone to research it FB_ just post a new message thread to my attention and I will find loads of it for you.

Good Luck!
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Old 11-08-2013, 01:22 PM
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I think you are playing this wrong FB.

You sound bitter (I know your story so I understand) however you now have everything you want.

Speak to her, record the conversation if you need to.

In quebec you can lose shared custody of the kids for not having good minimal communications.

Knowledge is power, let her talk to you and spill her beans - don't respond just say I see.
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