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Parenting Issues This forum is for discussing any of the parenting issues involved in your divorce, including parenting of step-children.

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Old 10-18-2012, 01:33 AM
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besides my style of working is..

1. all under the table
2. i have never filed taxes
3. i have no intention to leave her hanging out to dry, no problem.
4. i know enough about law that gifts are exempted. conveniently all that i work for are gifts.

You aren't creating a persuasive legal argument with this.
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im a non resident (legal crap dont ask its a mess) therefor i am not liable for taxes. article 13 of the income tax act. not to mention gifts cannot be declared.

as an alternative for the visit with supervision i notified them that im recording all the visits to protect myself and to ensure the proper recollecftion of the visit.
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Old 10-18-2012, 08:52 AM
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im a non resident (legal crap dont ask its a mess) therefor i am not liable for taxes. article 13 of the income tax act. not to mention gifts cannot be declared.
You are going to be challenged on this, don't bury your head. I don't care how you choose to live your life, but when you are in court the mother's lawyer will do everything they can to rip you apart.

If you want custody you have to have a stable job, a stable income, and a stable residence. You will need to show your legal status in Canada is settled. You will be expected to be paying taxes, somewhere. Under the table will not cut it.

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as an alternative for the visit with supervision i notified them that im recording all the visits to protect myself and to ensure the proper recollecftion of the visit.
Recordings will not be admissible. Don't think that a judge will sit and listen to 2 hours of a child playing. What you need are independant observations. If the visits are in the mother's home or her parents', then change that. Take the child to a supervised parenting centre in town, find somewhere you can register. You need some facts to bring in with you. From what you describe I can almost guarentee that her parents will be swearing affidavits that you are not capable of caring for the child.
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Old 10-18-2012, 09:17 AM
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"2.she has a higher income, i dont value money as much as i do with knowledge and experience. i have more knowledge in application such as house building, technology and etc.. i COULD make a killing off of it, but im just not interested."

That ^ and an arsenal of other statements you have made are not going to get you very far. Perhaps you should look into having Legal representation "gifted" to you, as it appears that you will not present very well on your own.

Get interested in obtaining the income that you claim you are capable of earning and start paying table amount CS, accordingly. I for one, can see why the mother would want the child enrolled in daycare. The general consensus on ie: daycare, does not share the same views as you do ("waste of money" etc).

Your entire approach needs an overhaul. The parenting class suggestion was an excellent one. Show an 'interest' in getting signed up for that. ASAP.
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Old 10-18-2012, 10:21 AM
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any and all monies i do get i have to use for myself because of hyper thyroids and it increases appetite to high levels. i have documents to prove this.

i already completed the parenting class.

as i remember reading on this post, the custody was awarded to the mother even though the father clearly had more money the issue was that is the mother capable in parenting the child. the quote was something like "several mothers are on welfare but are rich in parenting skills". I am rich in parenting skills even though im on assistance to help me get by.

i know very well the lawyer will TRY to rip me apart, theres not a whole lot she can really rip me apart. child support is not an issue they can bring forth because of my financial statement.

unfortunately in southwest ontario having a stable job is rare, the economy is beyond shit and judges know this very clearly. so having a stable job or not will not be held against anyone. i sat in in motions and there are several fathers who had no job but was still granted joint custody even 1 case was granted sole custody because the mother lied and pissed the judge off. i can apply that to my case.

obviously i wont be saying stuff like i COULD make a killing. probably not now as contracts is dead for months.

the recordings were only to be kept from me in case they wanted to bring something up. lets say the parents said i did this or that on this date. i would bring that audio in which i say the date every time on it and present it as evidence and get them to point out where i did this or that.

i really appreciate you guys sharing your thoughts and opinions. it gives me ideas on how to approach this so i appreciate your criticism.
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Old 10-18-2012, 10:31 AM
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any and all monies i do get i have to use for myself because of hyper thyroids and it increases appetite to high levels. i have documents to prove this.
If you've been to the doctor and have 'documents' to prove it, you'd also be well aware that hyperthyroidism is highly treatable with propranolol or other beta blockers, which are relatively cheap even if you don't have insurance coverage. This would seem a much more appropriate, inexpensive and healthier alternative to spends gads of money on food to deal with the weight loss and increased appetite.

You seem to have a lot of excuses as to why you aren`t doing what you should be in regards to supporting your child.

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Old 10-18-2012, 10:40 AM
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oh really.....the doctors told me it was untreatable.......even 6 months ago they maintained that it cannot be treated. the doc told me they can supress it but it can never be "cured".

i give what i can even currently. my financial statements are proof of that. even though i dont have alot of money lets say only 230 in the bank i gave 150 to help my child out the best i can. the part where it said may june and july was mentioned because it was their answer.

i continued to try and support the best of my abilities. im below the guidelines but i continue to volunteer to pay what i can.
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Old 10-18-2012, 11:09 AM
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Does your condition prevent you from working? If you can work under the table you can work above the table. It is clear you are working, just not the legal way. Your "reported" income is below the threshold for CS, but is your ACTUAL income?

The fact that you have a degree and letters of recommendations, can and most likely will work against you as the other side can seek to have income imputed on you.

You need to tread carefully
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Old 10-18-2012, 11:22 AM
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my condition prevents me from working serious physical labour without meals every 2 hours.

my metabolic rate is much higher because of the condition so after 2 hours my energy begins to plummet. but for any mental work im in the clear because im not exerting as much energy. i used to do physical labour but when i was diagnosed with the condition i began to not be able to work unless i was given food only after 2-3 hours. which in the end caused for me to cost more then what my labour was worth.

if they were to get imputed income against me they will also be disappointed. i spend most of my money on food alone. i have no car nothing expensive but my computer and my bed. my computer is worth 1600 but its a necessary for my education and work. the judge agreed and noted it in our motion when they tried to get a motion for support.

berner i appreciate your post and its something to consider.
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Old 10-18-2012, 01:05 PM
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Lots of things are incurable, but highly treatable. Like hyperthyroidism, which is fairly common so this in itself is not a valid reason for not having a job.


If you've been diagnosed with Graves-Basedow disease (which I'm sure you know is the most common cause of hyperthyroidism), there is no actual treatment for Grave's Disease however there ARE fairly simple treatment options for the end results (hyperthyroidism) which can range from RAI to anti-thyroid drugs to complete thyroidectomy & thyroxine treatment.

All are fairly simple methods to deal with the issue and have a normal life.

If your doctors haven't told you any of this, you need a new doctor NOW and should be seeing an endocrinology specialist either way.
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Old 10-18-2012, 01:26 PM
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blink thank you is it possible that we can chat on another forum such as skype. i would like to get this annoyance fixed. i would love to talk to you in possible options that i can have to get this permanently fixed.

but i don't have graves disease. my hyperthyroids are caused by prolonged infection of ingrown toenails and thus my proten levels is very low. i do get high amounts of protein in my diet but doctors currently cannot explain as to why my thyroids is still out of wack.

it hasn't inhibited me from working, just physical work is restricted to a few hours without nourishment. i can still perform physical and mental but physical is just in short bursts.
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