I've ranted a lot in here over my babysitting/section 7 expenses.
We have 2 children and ex currently takes them to a lady's house to be babysat while she works. (I believe non-licensed)
Our original separation agreement in 2008 stated that there were no section 7 expenses, if such were to occur, such as child care, ex was to notify me of the expense, provide me with receipt of proof and then I was to reimburse her my share within 20 days of being provided the receipt.
Ex asked me to start paying babysitting expenses in June 2011. I told her "No, problem, give me the receipts so I can start paying" Ex refused to give any receipts. After a while of me asking for the receipts, in mid July 2011 ex provided me with a lined piece of paper, where she had wrote in pen all the months/weeks from January 2011 to June 2011 with dollar amounts beside them that she was claiming she paid in babysitting/expected me to pay for.
Well clearly this was not a legitimate receipt....So I ignored it. (I believe there is something fishy going on with the babysitting...she either isn't paying the sitter as much as she claims.....or babysitter is not claiming it on her taxes...since she could not provide any receipts to ex. BUT Ex is claiming it on her taxes/receiving the benefits of doing so!)
So ex got lawyer in October 2011, her lawyer sent me a letter, stating that ex did not need receipts for the babysitting. Her lawyer wanted me to send her my T4 and income tax statements so that she could calculate everything up. Ex was going for increase in child support now too and contribution for children's activities. Her lawyer stated that ex did not need receipts for anything! I was just expected to pay whatever number she told me.
I got a lawyer after that. In February 2012, we settled out of court. Lawyers made amendment/it was discussed at meeting that ex was to provide me with a receipt for child care expenses on a monthly basis/ proving she was paying someone, stating the total amount she paid them. After being advised of this amount, I then was to calculate my share and reimburse ex my share within 20 days.
Well ex never followed amendment/ never provided me with any receipts. Instead ex was sending me a monthly e-mail where she would just type out the weeks and amount for each month. I notified my lawyer of this and lawyer advised me just to pay because she didn't want me to end up having a large bill to pay if ex came up with the receipts at the end of the year.
Everyone on here was telling me to STOP paying ex until she could provide receipts/let it go to court.
I followed my lawyer's advice though and continued to pay without seeing any legitimate proof of receipt. I paid ex based on whatever amount she listed in the e-mail.
So here we are February 2013 now. Ex provided no receipts for 2012. I told her that until she could provide the 12 monthly receipts for 2012 and start providing me with a monthly receipt for 2013, I would not be paying her anymore babysitting expenses.
Last night Ex finally e-mailed me 12 monthly receipts for 2012----BUT ONLY ONE MATCHES UP to the e-mailed amount she told me/ proportional share cheque amount I gave her.
Half of the receipts list a higher monthly amount on the receipt in comparison to the e-mail amount she sent me---what I paid her for proportional share. And a few of the receipts list a lower amount, her e-mail stated a higher amount, in which I paid her.
What would you do in this situation????
We have 2 children and ex currently takes them to a lady's house to be babysat while she works. (I believe non-licensed)
Our original separation agreement in 2008 stated that there were no section 7 expenses, if such were to occur, such as child care, ex was to notify me of the expense, provide me with receipt of proof and then I was to reimburse her my share within 20 days of being provided the receipt.
Ex asked me to start paying babysitting expenses in June 2011. I told her "No, problem, give me the receipts so I can start paying" Ex refused to give any receipts. After a while of me asking for the receipts, in mid July 2011 ex provided me with a lined piece of paper, where she had wrote in pen all the months/weeks from January 2011 to June 2011 with dollar amounts beside them that she was claiming she paid in babysitting/expected me to pay for.
Well clearly this was not a legitimate receipt....So I ignored it. (I believe there is something fishy going on with the babysitting...she either isn't paying the sitter as much as she claims.....or babysitter is not claiming it on her taxes...since she could not provide any receipts to ex. BUT Ex is claiming it on her taxes/receiving the benefits of doing so!)
So ex got lawyer in October 2011, her lawyer sent me a letter, stating that ex did not need receipts for the babysitting. Her lawyer wanted me to send her my T4 and income tax statements so that she could calculate everything up. Ex was going for increase in child support now too and contribution for children's activities. Her lawyer stated that ex did not need receipts for anything! I was just expected to pay whatever number she told me.
I got a lawyer after that. In February 2012, we settled out of court. Lawyers made amendment/it was discussed at meeting that ex was to provide me with a receipt for child care expenses on a monthly basis/ proving she was paying someone, stating the total amount she paid them. After being advised of this amount, I then was to calculate my share and reimburse ex my share within 20 days.
Well ex never followed amendment/ never provided me with any receipts. Instead ex was sending me a monthly e-mail where she would just type out the weeks and amount for each month. I notified my lawyer of this and lawyer advised me just to pay because she didn't want me to end up having a large bill to pay if ex came up with the receipts at the end of the year.
Everyone on here was telling me to STOP paying ex until she could provide receipts/let it go to court.
I followed my lawyer's advice though and continued to pay without seeing any legitimate proof of receipt. I paid ex based on whatever amount she listed in the e-mail.
So here we are February 2013 now. Ex provided no receipts for 2012. I told her that until she could provide the 12 monthly receipts for 2012 and start providing me with a monthly receipt for 2013, I would not be paying her anymore babysitting expenses.
Last night Ex finally e-mailed me 12 monthly receipts for 2012----BUT ONLY ONE MATCHES UP to the e-mailed amount she told me/ proportional share cheque amount I gave her.
Half of the receipts list a higher monthly amount on the receipt in comparison to the e-mail amount she sent me---what I paid her for proportional share. And a few of the receipts list a lower amount, her e-mail stated a higher amount, in which I paid her.
What would you do in this situation????
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