I started custody proceedings in June 2011. In March of this year, OCL got involved. Now they want to interview my son. Thus far, neither his mother nor have told him that there is any court proceeding over custody or that we are even in any conflict about it. Now I'm told that when the OCL investigator interviews him, they will "have" to tell him one way or another that they are here to possibly help a judge decide where he should live, etc.
I have a few ideas about how to explain this to my son before the interview so that he doesn't learn about this the first time from the OCL social worker. Has anyone else out there been through that process? Any suggestions on how I can explain this to my little boy without upsetting him or making him worry about hurting one of us, or feeling a lot of pressure?
He has to know something about it before hand and it's coming this week but I don't want to make it any harder or scarier for him than it needs to be. I also don't want risk seeming as though I want him to say anything to the investigator but what he really thinks and feels when the investigator asks him questions.
Finally, I don't want to run the risk of seeming as though I have in any way coached him for the interview beforehand. I just want to make sure he's prepared for this before hand.
Any thoughts anyone?
I have a few ideas about how to explain this to my son before the interview so that he doesn't learn about this the first time from the OCL social worker. Has anyone else out there been through that process? Any suggestions on how I can explain this to my little boy without upsetting him or making him worry about hurting one of us, or feeling a lot of pressure?
He has to know something about it before hand and it's coming this week but I don't want to make it any harder or scarier for him than it needs to be. I also don't want risk seeming as though I want him to say anything to the investigator but what he really thinks and feels when the investigator asks him questions.
Finally, I don't want to run the risk of seeming as though I have in any way coached him for the interview beforehand. I just want to make sure he's prepared for this before hand.
Any thoughts anyone?
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