ALL things being equal between parents, who gets custody?
I imagine this 'settlement meeting" will be "off the record", when it happens and believe me the OP wants the meeting more than you do.
Not to settle anything but to show a Judge they tried.
(less than 30 days until filing for SC/TMC)
Believe me OP will want meeting after meeting after meeting until they arrive in front of a Judge.
Where did all your preparation time go for the SC/TMC to ask for items for Trial? WASTED IN MEETING (s)
What's the Judge going to hear from both parties "we are working on it", and out the door you go probably to another conference.
During the wait, the new interim access gets solidified and custody will obviously be harder to obtain.
You need something not "off the record at a settlement meeting " but useable in Court that makes you look GOOD.
My answer is a prior letter to LAO scumbag lawyer on "conditions" or subject matter to be covered for the meeting(s). A brief outline that's reasonable to a common sense person (judge) reading it.
1) We would love to have full disclosure before the meeting when can we expect the Affidavit of Doc's.
2) Goldilocks's address prior to meeting or assurances it will be done at meeting.
3) Like to chat about make-up time for 8 months DAD lost due to false allegations
4) Dad will be discussing Health Welfare and Education at the meeting, please bring
5) OFW because of false allegation and hostile parent.
6) I'm sure you'll agree that terms enforceable by the police are required.
...anyways short list
OP won't agree to none of it of course...so why would they bother with "settlement" ....because it's smoke and mirrors and another delay to cause confusion.
SECONDLY
Family Court is a great place to dredge up the past and also forget about it.
Like PRESTO lets settle this today!......this comes out of nowhere and it's music to one parties ears.
Judge doesn't know about 10,000 access request that were ignored....or 10,000 mediation requests...or 10000 health and welfare requests.
All a Judge see's is "settlement failed" and that's all LAO scumbag lawyer wants a Judge to see.
adding "connecting the dot" stuff in letters is advisable:
1) ....we are hopeful your client accepts mediation although it has been rejected 10 previous times.
2)......dialogue is key between parties, your client declined the use of a communication book in the past as an alternative we offer OFW, both subscriber fees paid by us.
...other items to connect the past to the present in a nice way.
Anyways you get the pre-settlement letter as a gift...knowing the LAO scumbag lawyers isn't interested in "settlement"....and if it's worded nicely...a Judge will understand why "no settlement happened"
EX isn't going to move on Custody.....LAO scumbag lawyer is going to use your "good faith" against you,to keep you off your feet....so your not working on your position for Trial.
After the SC/TMC...it's the big show......your either ready for it or your not
SC\TMC is for preparing for Trial. PERIOD
I imagine this 'settlement meeting" will be "off the record", when it happens and believe me the OP wants the meeting more than you do.
Not to settle anything but to show a Judge they tried.
(less than 30 days until filing for SC/TMC)
Believe me OP will want meeting after meeting after meeting until they arrive in front of a Judge.
Where did all your preparation time go for the SC/TMC to ask for items for Trial? WASTED IN MEETING (s)
What's the Judge going to hear from both parties "we are working on it", and out the door you go probably to another conference.
During the wait, the new interim access gets solidified and custody will obviously be harder to obtain.
You need something not "off the record at a settlement meeting " but useable in Court that makes you look GOOD.
My answer is a prior letter to LAO scumbag lawyer on "conditions" or subject matter to be covered for the meeting(s). A brief outline that's reasonable to a common sense person (judge) reading it.
1) We would love to have full disclosure before the meeting when can we expect the Affidavit of Doc's.
2) Goldilocks's address prior to meeting or assurances it will be done at meeting.
3) Like to chat about make-up time for 8 months DAD lost due to false allegations
4) Dad will be discussing Health Welfare and Education at the meeting, please bring
5) OFW because of false allegation and hostile parent.
6) I'm sure you'll agree that terms enforceable by the police are required.
...anyways short list
OP won't agree to none of it of course...so why would they bother with "settlement" ....because it's smoke and mirrors and another delay to cause confusion.
SECONDLY
Family Court is a great place to dredge up the past and also forget about it.
Like PRESTO lets settle this today!......this comes out of nowhere and it's music to one parties ears.
Judge doesn't know about 10,000 access request that were ignored....or 10,000 mediation requests...or 10000 health and welfare requests.
All a Judge see's is "settlement failed" and that's all LAO scumbag lawyer wants a Judge to see.
adding "connecting the dot" stuff in letters is advisable:
1) ....we are hopeful your client accepts mediation although it has been rejected 10 previous times.
2)......dialogue is key between parties, your client declined the use of a communication book in the past as an alternative we offer OFW, both subscriber fees paid by us.
...other items to connect the past to the present in a nice way.
Anyways you get the pre-settlement letter as a gift...knowing the LAO scumbag lawyers isn't interested in "settlement"....and if it's worded nicely...a Judge will understand why "no settlement happened"
EX isn't going to move on Custody.....LAO scumbag lawyer is going to use your "good faith" against you,to keep you off your feet....so your not working on your position for Trial.
After the SC/TMC...it's the big show......your either ready for it or your not
SC\TMC is for preparing for Trial. PERIOD
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