Hi, new posting here, but I have been reading, especially when we were drawing up our Separation Agreement when we did it Collaboratively. I think we have a very tight agreement, with very little wiggle room when it comes to misunderstandings.
One of the points I was determined to have put in, was that the father of our son was to make every reasonable effort to be on time for pick ups and drop offs. Any disputes we have in regards to any parenting topics and scheduling are mediated very successfully through a Parenting Coach, who says we are doing really well for our son.
The only real bone of contention at this time is the father's extreme lateness and forgetting he had scheduled time with our son. I'm not talking 10 or 15 minutes -that's pretty average for him, I'm talking an hour, hour & a half and over 2 hours late within the past 2 weeks alone. I don't want to go into details, but I feel this is his way of controlling me in the only way he can at this point -controlling my free time and forcing me to cancel my own plans or scheduled work. This is not beneficial for our son in any way, I am constantly left with a disappointed and upset 7 year old.
This is something I need to nip in the bud immediately, I won't tolerate it. It's obviously not something that can be helped through mediation; it was a topic discussed several times within our meetings with our lawyers and parenting coach obviously without making an impression on him. As it is, there is no consequence to his actions -except invoking anger, disappointment, and frustration to me and his son.
My question is, has anyone had a case like this and taken action?
I've called the local Family Law Information Centre, and they advised me to speak to a lawyer. I'm not even sure what to ask for? I really want my son to have a good and constant relationship with his father, so taking time away from him would be detrimental to that. The only thing that seems to hit home with him are financial penalties -which seems ridiculous to me, how do you determine a "fine" for lateness and impose it?
Any help would be appreciated. Jeni
One of the points I was determined to have put in, was that the father of our son was to make every reasonable effort to be on time for pick ups and drop offs. Any disputes we have in regards to any parenting topics and scheduling are mediated very successfully through a Parenting Coach, who says we are doing really well for our son.
The only real bone of contention at this time is the father's extreme lateness and forgetting he had scheduled time with our son. I'm not talking 10 or 15 minutes -that's pretty average for him, I'm talking an hour, hour & a half and over 2 hours late within the past 2 weeks alone. I don't want to go into details, but I feel this is his way of controlling me in the only way he can at this point -controlling my free time and forcing me to cancel my own plans or scheduled work. This is not beneficial for our son in any way, I am constantly left with a disappointed and upset 7 year old.
This is something I need to nip in the bud immediately, I won't tolerate it. It's obviously not something that can be helped through mediation; it was a topic discussed several times within our meetings with our lawyers and parenting coach obviously without making an impression on him. As it is, there is no consequence to his actions -except invoking anger, disappointment, and frustration to me and his son.
My question is, has anyone had a case like this and taken action?
I've called the local Family Law Information Centre, and they advised me to speak to a lawyer. I'm not even sure what to ask for? I really want my son to have a good and constant relationship with his father, so taking time away from him would be detrimental to that. The only thing that seems to hit home with him are financial penalties -which seems ridiculous to me, how do you determine a "fine" for lateness and impose it?
Any help would be appreciated. Jeni
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