I recently became a mother to my second child with my current boyfriend of two years. We have a 4 month old daugter, we met while he was on course at the base in my hometown. Currently he is overseas on tour and when he comes home will be posted back out west and wants us to come with him.
The hard part is that I have a child from a previous relationship and her father is dead set against the move. Our relationship at best could be described as shaky, with much distrust on both our parts. He resents me from leaving and moving back to my home town and I can't forget the abuse that I suffered at his hand ( physical and emotional). Through all of this I have never denied him access to our daughter, I just requested that he get help for his anger issues.
They have a great relatiosnhip and he loves her so much, which makes this so hard...Too be honest regardless of the fact that I love my current partner if it was not for the fact that we have a child together and want us to be a family, I would deny myself happiness and stay here.
I can't afford to raise both children by myself and the job market is limited. My oldest daughter father does pay support but he chooses to work part time so the support is not a whole lot. His situation money wise is a little worse then mine but he is also 29 still living at home with his parents.
As well the access agreement which we currently have is going to change in the next year when she is ready to start school, he currently sees her every other weekend from Saturday til Tuesday but that will change to Friday til Sunday next fall.
My ex understands my reasons for wanting to move and even agrees that the job opportunties in Nova Scotia are limited, from his own personel experience but feels that if he doesn't wish to relocate then I should remain here as well. He is considering relocating to Vancouver as well, he actually spent the lat several years telling me that he was thinking of relocating once are little girl started school due to the fact that his visits would be cut almost by half, but it seems like since I wish now to relocate as well, he is no longer interested in making the move.
I'm currently looking at a court battle to be able to move and I feel so trapped. I know that mobility cases are not to be taken lightly and the childs interest are what is looked at but I'm confused as to how this would play out when you have to children from different fathers to think about.
The hard part is that I have a child from a previous relationship and her father is dead set against the move. Our relationship at best could be described as shaky, with much distrust on both our parts. He resents me from leaving and moving back to my home town and I can't forget the abuse that I suffered at his hand ( physical and emotional). Through all of this I have never denied him access to our daughter, I just requested that he get help for his anger issues.
They have a great relatiosnhip and he loves her so much, which makes this so hard...Too be honest regardless of the fact that I love my current partner if it was not for the fact that we have a child together and want us to be a family, I would deny myself happiness and stay here.
I can't afford to raise both children by myself and the job market is limited. My oldest daughter father does pay support but he chooses to work part time so the support is not a whole lot. His situation money wise is a little worse then mine but he is also 29 still living at home with his parents.
As well the access agreement which we currently have is going to change in the next year when she is ready to start school, he currently sees her every other weekend from Saturday til Tuesday but that will change to Friday til Sunday next fall.
My ex understands my reasons for wanting to move and even agrees that the job opportunties in Nova Scotia are limited, from his own personel experience but feels that if he doesn't wish to relocate then I should remain here as well. He is considering relocating to Vancouver as well, he actually spent the lat several years telling me that he was thinking of relocating once are little girl started school due to the fact that his visits would be cut almost by half, but it seems like since I wish now to relocate as well, he is no longer interested in making the move.
I'm currently looking at a court battle to be able to move and I feel so trapped. I know that mobility cases are not to be taken lightly and the childs interest are what is looked at but I'm confused as to how this would play out when you have to children from different fathers to think about.
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