I’m in the process of starting the divorce procedures and I have to see if this is at all possible.
We have been married for over 20 years now and can’t live with each other and my son requests that he lives with me. (he is over 16). When we first got married we both were working full time right up till she had my son and is was mutually agreed upon that she would go back to work once he was in school full time, basically till he was 5. Our marriage has been rocky at best and I was going to apply for divorce once he was 5 but never followed through and she never went back to work because she stated that the epidural affected her back but never got a doctor to ever look at it for 16 years. Now she can sit in front of the computer and TV for hours and hours on end with no issues at all but refuses to go to work for many years. I have ONLY stayed this long with her for my son, that’s it. I believe that children should have two parents and that’s the way I was brought up and what I personally believe is correct. We have had NO consultation in the past five years but with email.
In all my investigation there was nothing I found with any government assistance I could have asked for to help me legally force her to get a job, I could be wrong here but you can’t force anyone that does not want to make an attempt to better themselves. Now basically I’m on the hook for SS potentially by doing the right thing in a family in Canada (I’m also Canadian). I have never accepted this in our relationship but just bit my teeth and moved on day by day for my son.
My odd question is this, because she never went back to work or tried to better herself can I possibly go after her for lost net worth from our situation? If she worked we would be in a much better financial situation then we are now but just curious to see if this makes sense or not. I don’t want this to turn into a bashing situation, it’s just a question that was asked from a friend and I’m curious to see if it’s worth pursuing
We have been married for over 20 years now and can’t live with each other and my son requests that he lives with me. (he is over 16). When we first got married we both were working full time right up till she had my son and is was mutually agreed upon that she would go back to work once he was in school full time, basically till he was 5. Our marriage has been rocky at best and I was going to apply for divorce once he was 5 but never followed through and she never went back to work because she stated that the epidural affected her back but never got a doctor to ever look at it for 16 years. Now she can sit in front of the computer and TV for hours and hours on end with no issues at all but refuses to go to work for many years. I have ONLY stayed this long with her for my son, that’s it. I believe that children should have two parents and that’s the way I was brought up and what I personally believe is correct. We have had NO consultation in the past five years but with email.
In all my investigation there was nothing I found with any government assistance I could have asked for to help me legally force her to get a job, I could be wrong here but you can’t force anyone that does not want to make an attempt to better themselves. Now basically I’m on the hook for SS potentially by doing the right thing in a family in Canada (I’m also Canadian). I have never accepted this in our relationship but just bit my teeth and moved on day by day for my son.
My odd question is this, because she never went back to work or tried to better herself can I possibly go after her for lost net worth from our situation? If she worked we would be in a much better financial situation then we are now but just curious to see if this makes sense or not. I don’t want this to turn into a bashing situation, it’s just a question that was asked from a friend and I’m curious to see if it’s worth pursuing
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