brief history.
Been together 5yrs while I was separated from a spouse, then married 5. Separated few yrs ago briefly and things improverd. Now she wants to end it. She is step parent to my two kids and more like the real parent as kids mom did virtually nothing and one child refuses to live with her mom as orrig there was joint/shared custody.
Spouse says she wants to be fair and maintain relationship due to kids and were not hating eachother as things just changed for us and she wants to move on.
she mentioned collaborative law. Right now I only want to negotiate with her (no lawyers)
she brought $0 into relationship where I owned a home> she says she will honour what I had in home to start. We will see.
From what I read she can be asked to support my kids financially? I won't do this unless she gets unreasonable.
I have the right to delay dealing with property div for 6yrs or 2yrs after divorce =3yrs??? She wanted everything done very fast (within 2 months settled) Pay her off so she can take her cash and possessions and move on.
I dont see that as if I can afford to buy her out, I need to arrange refinance etc along with agreement or worse case sell house or things get nasty and it drags on and on.
Added side note, she had a great job paying well (60k+) decided to be self employed with promises etc of making same or more. I supported that and for two yrs she barely made 20-25k when we orrig contributed 50-50 to expenses and house and her contributions have been 50% less.
looking forward to comments
Been together 5yrs while I was separated from a spouse, then married 5. Separated few yrs ago briefly and things improverd. Now she wants to end it. She is step parent to my two kids and more like the real parent as kids mom did virtually nothing and one child refuses to live with her mom as orrig there was joint/shared custody.
Spouse says she wants to be fair and maintain relationship due to kids and were not hating eachother as things just changed for us and she wants to move on.
she mentioned collaborative law. Right now I only want to negotiate with her (no lawyers)
she brought $0 into relationship where I owned a home> she says she will honour what I had in home to start. We will see.
From what I read she can be asked to support my kids financially? I won't do this unless she gets unreasonable.
I have the right to delay dealing with property div for 6yrs or 2yrs after divorce =3yrs??? She wanted everything done very fast (within 2 months settled) Pay her off so she can take her cash and possessions and move on.
I dont see that as if I can afford to buy her out, I need to arrange refinance etc along with agreement or worse case sell house or things get nasty and it drags on and on.
Added side note, she had a great job paying well (60k+) decided to be self employed with promises etc of making same or more. I supported that and for two yrs she barely made 20-25k when we orrig contributed 50-50 to expenses and house and her contributions have been 50% less.
looking forward to comments
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