Since separating from my soon-to-be-ex husband, I have started a serious relationship with another person. He's a wonderful guy with grown children of his own...however, because I'm entering into a custody dispute, I've never brought this person around my children and have a two-fold question...
1) Will bringing this person around my almost teenage daughter prior to having a custody/separation agreement worked out have any legal impact in court?...and more importantly...
2) Is there an optimal time to do this to reduce the trauma of a new person on my daughter...who honestly, has enough change to deal with at the moment?
I am trying my best to be sensitive to my child needs and in doing so, would like to simply talk to her father about the issue...but we are unable to communicate about these matters at all. Part of the reason he's suing me for custody is so that my daughter won't be around any future partner I might have (which is ridiculous).
So my current situation is that I see this new person one day a week, on the weekend because the marital home is still up for sale. However, my daughter misses me..calls me when i'm gone..and I'd really like to just be able to bring her with me.
I've been as honest as I can be with her about the situation, what's going on, and where I am...and I've told her that she can ask me anything she wants and I'd tell her the truth. When my parents got divorced when I was a kid...I just didn't know what was going on...and I wanted to make sure she is being told the truth. But honestly, going forward with the amount of time its taking just to get to court..I'm wondering whether it would be better not to just bring her with me when I go out on the weekend...
Can someone give me a legal...and emotional perspective on this?
1) Will bringing this person around my almost teenage daughter prior to having a custody/separation agreement worked out have any legal impact in court?...and more importantly...
2) Is there an optimal time to do this to reduce the trauma of a new person on my daughter...who honestly, has enough change to deal with at the moment?
I am trying my best to be sensitive to my child needs and in doing so, would like to simply talk to her father about the issue...but we are unable to communicate about these matters at all. Part of the reason he's suing me for custody is so that my daughter won't be around any future partner I might have (which is ridiculous).
So my current situation is that I see this new person one day a week, on the weekend because the marital home is still up for sale. However, my daughter misses me..calls me when i'm gone..and I'd really like to just be able to bring her with me.
I've been as honest as I can be with her about the situation, what's going on, and where I am...and I've told her that she can ask me anything she wants and I'd tell her the truth. When my parents got divorced when I was a kid...I just didn't know what was going on...and I wanted to make sure she is being told the truth. But honestly, going forward with the amount of time its taking just to get to court..I'm wondering whether it would be better not to just bring her with me when I go out on the weekend...
Can someone give me a legal...and emotional perspective on this?
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