I guess this question goes out to all the " blended" families. How do you or would you handle the name game? Not the Mom, Dad etc names but the last family name.
So
Mom and Dad have child X. Child is given Dads last name ( they were in love and soon to be married so it made sense).
Mom and Dad separate!
Dad moves on with new GF and produces another child plus gains 2 other children from her previous marriage.
Therefore in Dad's family we have 3 names:
GF maiden name, her 2 children from a former marriage have their Dads last name and Newbie Baby and Dad have his name.
On the other side Mom has her maiden name, as they never married, the child x has his Dads name ( remember they were in love at the time and soon to be married) Now Mom has a new man in her life and if she were to marry would likely take his name.
If they have more children they will have her new husbands last name.
How has this worked for other families? Have the children felt left out because they do not have the same last name. We noticed in school that we have had to correct the teachers on several occasions because they refer to the child by the Mothers last name. Then the child asks why?
Just wondering.
So
Mom and Dad have child X. Child is given Dads last name ( they were in love and soon to be married so it made sense).
Mom and Dad separate!
Dad moves on with new GF and produces another child plus gains 2 other children from her previous marriage.
Therefore in Dad's family we have 3 names:
GF maiden name, her 2 children from a former marriage have their Dads last name and Newbie Baby and Dad have his name.
On the other side Mom has her maiden name, as they never married, the child x has his Dads name ( remember they were in love at the time and soon to be married) Now Mom has a new man in her life and if she were to marry would likely take his name.
If they have more children they will have her new husbands last name.
How has this worked for other families? Have the children felt left out because they do not have the same last name. We noticed in school that we have had to correct the teachers on several occasions because they refer to the child by the Mothers last name. Then the child asks why?
Just wondering.
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