I will try to make a long story short. My common-law partner has been separated now for almost 9 years from his wife. It was at his request, won't go into the details but it was by no means a surprise. At the time he was posted to the UK and being 1) very fair and 2) just wanting to keep everything as easy and nice as possible he agreed to some very unusual circumstances. He walked away literally with just the clothes on his back, her full control of the matrimonial home and their son and for the first full year his whole paycheck(she was paying most of their joint debts out if that) After a year she filed for divorce, it became a lawyer nightmare, he paid out somewhere between 5-10K and never even sorted out a separation agreement in that amount. Basically feeling like it was pointless, he agreed to pay her twice the amount of child support, all the babysitting costs and also $400 a month spousal ( this was when he was only making $40,000) a year. He also agreed to sort out their joint debt on his own and again left her the house etc. This went down finally in the fall of 2007 after the son not going to the sitter for a year, at that point he wanted to put it closer to the table amount (which was still $40 extra a month) to $600 and give her still $200 for spousal. Please know that by this point he was virtually bankrupt,living in overdraft. She only agreed if he would do it all as child support so she didn't have to claim it. Within a month however she went to a lawyer, started checking on his pension (which she said she would leave alone as long as he always did all of this overpaying) and making demands. He got a lawyer and supplied her with all his financials etc, blew another $2600 on that lawyer to only have her lawyer and herself to never answer anything! Then last fall she reinstated the orginal petition for divorce asking for financials all over again! Great so another $2600 later, another lawyer all that work again and guess what? 4 months after supplying both the court and herself with all of the info we get no reply or info back as requested.
We are so lost and do not know where to turn. It is like she just wants to make him so crazy he will give her anything to make it stop (she wants a lump sum of cash which she doesn't seem to get...we don't have, if we did we would gladly give it) We have also now had to tie up more debt from all of this lawyer cost into our mortgage. The lawyers can't seem to tell us what the heck to do to get any answers or get anything to happen. My question is with us in On , her in NS and he in a military job which makes it hard to get dragged to court a million times where do we turn to get this done? Is there a lawyer somewhere that can help and give honest answers instead of taking money and never doing anything?
If anyone knows anything, understands how divorce, court, forms etc work in NS I would so appreciate any input.
At this point I am really starting to think we can never get this sorted.
My dear man is a good man, he would never say p**p even if his mouth was full. He only ever wanted to make it nice for fear what she might say to his boy he adores. Even with all he gives her, he still pays all costs for travel, buys his son a full wardrobe twice a year and does all he can do. I just hate to see him so taken advantage of and with no one who seems to want to do anything other than take his money.
Thanks for listening.
We are so lost and do not know where to turn. It is like she just wants to make him so crazy he will give her anything to make it stop (she wants a lump sum of cash which she doesn't seem to get...we don't have, if we did we would gladly give it) We have also now had to tie up more debt from all of this lawyer cost into our mortgage. The lawyers can't seem to tell us what the heck to do to get any answers or get anything to happen. My question is with us in On , her in NS and he in a military job which makes it hard to get dragged to court a million times where do we turn to get this done? Is there a lawyer somewhere that can help and give honest answers instead of taking money and never doing anything?
If anyone knows anything, understands how divorce, court, forms etc work in NS I would so appreciate any input.
At this point I am really starting to think we can never get this sorted.
My dear man is a good man, he would never say p**p even if his mouth was full. He only ever wanted to make it nice for fear what she might say to his boy he adores. Even with all he gives her, he still pays all costs for travel, buys his son a full wardrobe twice a year and does all he can do. I just hate to see him so taken advantage of and with no one who seems to want to do anything other than take his money.
Thanks for listening.
Comment