Ex and I agree on kids and agreed to most financial terms of our separations agreement. His lawyer is a front man only and the agreements he sends my lawyer all need revision and its clear he is cut and past and thats about it.
However, we agree on where and how of the kids and finances. It seems the lawyers are going back and forth on legal jargon. 50 ways to skin a cat type of situation and I am paying for this back and forth. Ex now refuses to agree on anything and we are at an impasse. Some is quite obvious and he isn't asking his lawyer for clarification because he only paid his lawyer for a separation agreement to be drafted and nothing else. I am trying to protect myself. How does this get settled when this standstill occurs. I have acquiesced to all his wishes and he just keeps bullying. Threatens to leave the house empty (I have moved) and is just disagreeable and mean to the kids now. Meanwhile we have lines of credit owing, rental homes needing work and he refuses to help because they are "mine"(in agreement they are but not signed yet) and a life with my kids that needs to move forward. Just a complete bully yet I think going to court is over the top unnecessary. He won't do a 4 way meeting to hash it out because he was called out on his lies at the last one and it was embarrassing for him. Now what? What would a judge do and how long would it take to get there. I have tried reasoning and talking to ex but his is just horrible about it and said he has paid enough. He is simply angry that I was entitled to anything. I am even giving up almost a 100k as it is and walking away (for personal reasons and lieu of paying child support that is well documented)
However, we agree on where and how of the kids and finances. It seems the lawyers are going back and forth on legal jargon. 50 ways to skin a cat type of situation and I am paying for this back and forth. Ex now refuses to agree on anything and we are at an impasse. Some is quite obvious and he isn't asking his lawyer for clarification because he only paid his lawyer for a separation agreement to be drafted and nothing else. I am trying to protect myself. How does this get settled when this standstill occurs. I have acquiesced to all his wishes and he just keeps bullying. Threatens to leave the house empty (I have moved) and is just disagreeable and mean to the kids now. Meanwhile we have lines of credit owing, rental homes needing work and he refuses to help because they are "mine"(in agreement they are but not signed yet) and a life with my kids that needs to move forward. Just a complete bully yet I think going to court is over the top unnecessary. He won't do a 4 way meeting to hash it out because he was called out on his lies at the last one and it was embarrassing for him. Now what? What would a judge do and how long would it take to get there. I have tried reasoning and talking to ex but his is just horrible about it and said he has paid enough. He is simply angry that I was entitled to anything. I am even giving up almost a 100k as it is and walking away (for personal reasons and lieu of paying child support that is well documented)
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