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  • #31
    Originally posted by LovingFather32 View Post
    Can you point to anywhere in my initial post in this thread where I speak of injustice?

    Also, whether my "approach" in my past relationship was or wasn't the right one (I did the best I could) isn't relevant to today's sharing's of mothers day. I personally think it's disgusting that you're digging the bottom of the barrel to attack my character for sharing my mothers day experience. Pretty grotesque stuff. (Talk about speaking volumes of charter .. yikes).
    Reread what I wrote. I wrote that you act as though an injustice has been done to you.

    What you think of my actions towards you is frankly meaningless to me.

    Reread post 6 to get a reminder of the issue people had with your post. To add to It, that you think doing household chores to make a day special is ridiculous. You should be doing those things on a regular basis anyhow.

    You called me out in your initial post here, wondering I would show my appreciation for the post. Well I did, it's your own fault.

    I've taken a liking to this, and in fact didn't have anything better to do this weekend. I've seen how you and Trinton attack anyone who doesn't agree with you, playing with and twisting words, and playing the victim. Calling you out on it has been entertaining.

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    • #32
      Trinton,

      I agree you may be bitter right now and sometimes it comes out on your keyboard. Been there, done that .. burned the t-shirt.

      You went out of your way to get a Happy Mothers Day card and beautiful slogan and start a thread about mothers day. I guess merely mentioning your ex or your situation was the catalyst for a full blown attack .. like you'er not allowed to discuss mothers day .. I personally find that ridiculous.

      I might have avoided from some of your threads because it hurt me to see your pain and I know it's hard to keep the emotions in. I know what you're going through and it's hard for me to watch. Your anger comes out in your words .. because .. you're angry. People who tell you not to be angry or to turn your bitterness off like it's a switch have never been through this.

      Some posters here like to kick people when they're down. It's the net .. and it's their problem. Let it roll of your shoulders. It's very clear throughout this thread that your intentions were NOT bad. Shame on other posters in my opinion.

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      • #33
        Originally posted by Soiled View Post
        To add to It, that you think doing household chores to make a day special is ridiculous. You should be doing those things on a regular basis anyhow.
        I went above and beyond. I went to IKEA and bought all new bathroom stuff (shower curtains, accessories, etc) and redid the bathroom. She's been talking about making a change to it for months and I surprised her with it. I also cleaned the house top to bottom within half a day to see her smile ... These things arn't daily expectations and I think most mothers would agree that having all that done while they have their feet kicked up is pretty nice.

        In Soiled's world these things are ridiculous .... but my partner definitely disagrees with you and can't really believe her eyes in these posts. She's asking where you guys come from? I didn't mention the breakfast in bed with heart shaped pancakes (yep..some here have my facebook and can even verify all I say is correct...lol) .. the poems, necklaces, flowers, etc.

        Anyways ... taking her out to see a movie now. Have a wonderful mothers day all. Stay smiling!
        Last edited by LovingFather32; 05-14-2017, 07:39 PM.

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        • #34
          Originally posted by LovingFather32 View Post
          I went above and beyond. I went to IKEA and bought all new bathroom stuff (shower curtains, accessories, etc) and redid the bathroom. She's been talking about making a change to it for months and I surprised her with it. I also cleaned the house top to bottom within half a day to see her smile ... Yes ladies hate that huh?

          In Soiled's world these things are ridiculous .... but my partner definitely disagrees with you and can't really believe her eyes in these posts. She's asking where you guys come from?

          Anyways ... taking her out to see a movie now. Have a wonderful mothers day all. Stay smiling!
          Like I stated, playing with words and twisting them. It's like talking to a child throwing a tantrum.

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          • #35
            Originally posted by Soiled View Post
            Like I stated, playing with words and twisting them. It's like talking to a child throwing a tantrum.
            Enlighten me. What words have I played with? I did nice things for my g/f on mothers day...get off my back man.

            I said happy mothers day and shared my experiences of the day. You want to argue about that for some reason. Very odd indeed. Readers are seriously okay with this?
            Last edited by LovingFather32; 05-14-2017, 07:44 PM.

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            • #36
              You add more to the story than was originally outlined and state that I'm against that. Feel free to reread the thread closely if you fail to understand, I have no desire to spell things out for you.

              I have no issue with how you spent your day or what you did. I've simply poked at you for how you've presented It, seeing as you decided to call me out.

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              • #37
                Trinton, do you wish your own family members HMD by beginning with the same tirade you did here? Or do you simply say HMD? One way is extremely disrespectful, the other is not. If you want to give someone best wishes, do that.

                LF32, hate to say it but yes, your reading comprehension of even some of your own posts is quite lacking. Trinton was incredibly disrespectful and you backed him up. Then the both of you had hissy fits when called out.

                Neither of you will even entertain the possibility that you may have been rude. That in itself speaks volumes.

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                • #38
                  Originally posted by trinton View Post
                  So you are suggesting that I should have kept the entire weekend and not offered her anytime for mother's day because she is in technically in contempt of our court order and owing me a long weekend - that would have been the high road, right - to hold mother's day hostage of time being owed.
                  No, I'm suggesting that you boasting about taking the high road here means that you are doing it not because it's the right thing to do, but because of the validation you would receive.

                  I've always thought Mother's Day was a bit made-up for commercialism, sort of like Valentine's Day. If my ex helped the kids in any way to buy me something or tell them what they had to do for me, I would enjoy it less. I want it to come from their little hearts.

                  I find LF treating his girlfriend as though it was her birthday or Valentine's Day a bit creepy, but I confess I do get melancholy on Mother's Day as I don't have my kids so my judgment is probably skewed.

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                  • #39
                    Phew! I think the whole discussion got off track. LF what you did for your girlfriend and your own Mother although overwhealming and ott it's your deal. But what you did and said about your ex is just a little ott. I think it weird that you would make a fuss for your ex. And I agree with Rio a gift chosen by you would not be appreciated by an ex. It's just a bit too "look at me the perfect " Dad

                    Trinton. Well you seem to hate your ex so it seemed out of character to make such a fuss for your ex. And then seemly seem smug about your efforts

                    I think posters were a little shell shocked and expressed that sentiment and you both took offence to opinions not in line with yours.

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                    • #40
                      Originally posted by motherbear4 View Post
                      Trinton, do you wish your own family members HMD by beginning with the same tirade you did here? Or do you simply say HMD? One way is extremely disrespectful, the other is not. If you want to give someone best wishes, do that.

                      LF32, hate to say it but yes, your reading comprehension of even some of your own posts is quite lacking. Trinton was incredibly disrespectful and you backed him up. Then the both of you had hissy fits when called out.

                      Neither of you will even entertain the possibility that you may have been rude. That in itself speaks volumes.
                      Here's what Triton wrote:
                      Despite my former spouse recently denying me access on my scheduled weekend (Easter) sending me a text message that she asked our 7 year old daughter who she wanted to spend Easter weekend with (burdening a 7 year old child to pick sides) and refusing to allow me a make-up weekend , I reached out to her and offered to give her the mother’s day weekend (in full) even though it was my regular weekend. I was initially going to be offering her the Sunday only (especially in lite of her very recent unilateral decision to reduce the status quo in face of an order appointing the OCL) but figured it would make more sense to give her the entire weekend. I simply told our daughter I would not be with her this coming weekend - that it was mother's day weekend and that I wanted her to enjoy it with mom - that I would see her on the following Wednesday.

                      There has been years where I did not get to see our daughter on father’s day (or receive any phone call ) but no matter what happens and what goes on between us dads and mothers, at the end of the day, the children love both of us.

                      Happy mother’s day to all of the mom’s out there.
                      Welcome to the forums by the way. So Trinton starts a thread saying Happy Mother's Day and may have discussed his situation a bit. Read the above .. there's nothing rude. He just discussed a few of her actions like many of us do about our ex's on the forums. You're all hypersensitive to his posts by now and are hopping all over him. I see posters talking about their ex's actions all the time and deicating full threads to them .. guess they get carte blanche?

                      In this thread, Trinton said a few things she did, but in the end gave her the mothers day weekend and wished everybody here a Happy Mothers Day with a nice card. BIG DEAL? Nobody was here to bash mothers.

                      Apparently I'm guilty by association. I'm used to it....forums did that with Mr T also .. but I'll stand up for what's right even if I'm the only one. Trinton's going through a rough time .. so he includes his ex's actions to try and get some validation from us regarding his pain. He;s learning the hard way on this site that talking hurt feelings come off differently when typed on a keyboard.

                      I know for a fact I wasn't being rude by describing my mothers day. If you want to call me rude because I didn't feel like Trinton deserved to get jumped then that's your prerogative I suppose. But it was just plain wrong. If you all hate him so much why even stop by here and argue all night?
                      Last edited by LovingFather32; 05-14-2017, 11:11 PM.

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                      • #41
                        Originally posted by Beachnana View Post
                        Phew! I think the whole discussion got off track. LF what you did for your girlfriend and your own Mother although overwhealming and ott it's your deal. But what you did and said about your ex is just a little ott. I think it weird that you would make a fuss for your ex. And I agree with Rio a gift chosen by you would not be appreciated by an ex. It's just a bit too "look at me the perfect " Dad

                        Trinton. Well you seem to hate your ex so it seemed out of character to make such a fuss for your ex. And then seemly seem smug about your efforts

                        I think posters were a little shell shocked and expressed that sentiment and you both took offence to opinions not in line with yours.
                        Whaaa? What did I say about my ex? My ex and I are great and she was happy I got a "mother & Daughter" necklace for D5 to give her. I said nothing bad about my ex.

                        You're absolutely ridiculous. My ex sent a text showing her appreciation. She does the same for me on Father's Day. And I didn't do this for my ex..I did it for OUR CHILD. She enjoys giving things to her parents. We also made a card for my ex with D5 ... she loves arts and crafts ...It's mothers Day for god sakes. I suppose you'll make that negative also? Nobody's trying to be "perfect" .. I'm trying to do what's best for my child.

                        Are you telling me nobody has ever bought or helped their child make a b-day/mothers day/fathers day card for their ex? Are you really trying to tell me it's "odd" and the wrong thing to do? Does nobody have a mind of their own here? I'm appalled.
                        Last edited by LovingFather32; 05-14-2017, 11:14 PM.

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                        • #42
                          Originally posted by Rioe View Post
                          I find LF treating his girlfriend as though it was her birthday or Valentine's Day a bit creepy, but I confess I do get melancholy on Mother's Day as I don't have my kids so my judgment is probably skewed.
                          I like to spoil my girlfriend. I could think of creepier things and Im sure you could also. We're also teaching the kids how to be generous and loving so they were very excited to help with everything. My g/f and mother are amazing and deserved everything they got today. My g/f can't believe what's being written here .. it's a hoot to read actually. The posts tonight are highly entertaining.
                          Last edited by LovingFather32; 05-14-2017, 11:20 PM.

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                          • #43
                            Originally posted by Soiled View Post
                            Reread post 6 to get a reminder of the issue people had with your post.
                            Okay .. here's post # 6:
                            A typically quiet member here, but I just have to say that this has missed the mark. There is no sincerity and is not about wishing us mother's having a Happy​ day. This is about how awesome you two are for being better than your ex's. Trinton & LF32, I cannot even begin to understand and know what you have been through. It's horrifying. But the time has come to stop projecting your feelings regarding one particular female on to the rest of us.
                            This is a rather offensive Mother's Day greeting.
                            This lady makes no sense either.

                            Please highlight what I said that was offensive in my post and/or projected any hard feelings towards my ex? ...here...I'll repeat my post:
                            Kudos to you Trinton for initiating a thread appreciating mothers. Wonder if certain posters will stop by to show appreciation for your post. I bet not. lol

                            I spent the day making sure I had everything perfect for mothers day.

                            I dont know where i would be without my mother.

                            I spent quite a bit and just finished mopping, sweeping, yard maintenance, dishes, vacuuming, etc so that my g/f can wake up to a beautiful and relaxing day. My g/f and my mom are the glue to the family and I appreciate EVERYTHING they do.

                            I also wanted to mention .. I went out and got a heart chain with an "I love you mom" slogan for D5 to give to my ex. I also had D5 make a gorgeous card and she placed the locket in it. You heard it right...for my ex. I think this is extremely important to bury the hatchet and show that you're mature and care about your child enough to do this. I know D5 appreciates that I did this also.

                            Happy Mother's Day mom's .... Thank you for being awesome every day!!
                            Please indicate where I offended mothers? I think other's reading comprehension need some tweaking if they believe any of the above is offensive to mothers. Where did I project any kind of hard feelings from my ex? I think this poster was sleeping when she read my post. This is just so sad.

                            I've taken a liking to this, and in fact didn't have anything better to do this weekend.
                            Soiled..this is a problem and very telling of your personality. I really hope Jeff reads this. You're just a trouble maker who got bored and wanted to start something negative. Sad really.

                            I wished all the mothers a Happy Mothers Day and described my day .... you might be able to trample my passion for 50/50 equal parenting...but not my passion for mothers day. Very disturbing IMO.

                            I was raised by a single mother. I saw how much she sacrificed and how hard she worked. This is why I take mothers day so seriously ... its not about anything else these weir posts describe. There was no hidden meaning.
                            Last edited by LovingFather32; 05-15-2017, 10:22 AM.

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                            • #44
                              Uuuuuuuggghhhhhhhhh!

                              Quote me properly or don't bother.

                              *I* never said it was offensive. Soiled was not referring to a post that said it was offensive.

                              This was post # 6 but it has been moved to post # 4 because Jeff has edited out some of the posts.

                              http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/f...28/#post220617

                              I think the problem is that this isn't an altruistic post. Trinton bashes his ex and LF brags about his own actions. HE spent a lot of money. HE cleaned the house. HE made the day perfect. HE bought a present for the ex. Yes , LF it is all about how awesome you are for Mother's Day. Yes Trinton, your ex is awful.

                              Couldn't either of you simply said Happy Mother's Day to the moms on the forum without the bragging or the bitching? You are proving Soiled's point about the whining. Just say HMD without all the baggage. We are not your ex and your issues are showing
                              Stop trying to be right all the time and actually slow down and read with the intent of understanding (instead of just arguing)!

                              Or, get back to work. Stop wasting tax payer's money and go help some kids.
                              Last edited by SadAndTired; 05-15-2017, 10:50 AM.

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                              • #45
                                S&T .. I cant see your posts unless I log off. I was quoting MotherBear4's post (Post # 6). She claimed what I wrote was offensive and that I was projecting negative feelings about my ex. When in reality I said how happy my ex and I are and described my mothers day. We've had a bumpy relationship .. but I bet you can even see that my post didn't have any of that stuff?

                                I might understand kickback on 50/50 threads..etc ... I'm really blown away by this one though.
                                Last edited by LovingFather32; 05-15-2017, 10:34 AM.

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