I'm the father of a 2y old daughter who is currently in a licensed daycare full-time enrolled by the mother. It has been extremely difficult and frustrating in obtaining any info from the daycare or the mother as to how my daughter has been doing.
Another relevant piece of info is that I was charged with assault on mother nearly 2 years ago and that matter is still under trial. The usual restrictions i.e. no contact, can't go where ex normally visits, works, etc are still in place.
A couple of months ago, I was able to obtain a court order which states mother shall sign direction at daycare to permit the father to directly obtain info regarding the child. In terms of physical access, currently it's only supervised (through another independent provider).
After this access to information order, I contacted the daycare and their demand is that I first must come in the center so they can verify my identity and basically know who I am.
When they found out about the bail conditions (effectively a restraining order), and the supervised visits, daycare says I'm not allowed to visit their site and they cannot allow me to be present on the premises while my daughter is inside.
I explained I will specifically come when mother is not there so as to not breach bail conditions. I further explained I will not seek access to my daughter and only want to come into their office and make some inquiries.
Daycare persists that they're not allowed to let me in, talk to me, etc while my daughter is present inside.
I said if I cannot come into the center, can I communicate with you over the email, I'll even send you my ID for verification; they said no.
At that point, the daycare lady got annoyed and said you and your ex need to figure this out, discuss it with the judge, don't put us in the middle of this and if I persist, she will discontinue communication.
I'm trying to understand and seeking input on is if the daycare's position is reasonable. Is that what they typically do? Or are they actually in violation of the access to info Order and incorrectly interpreting the restraining order? Should I just wait until my criminal matter is resolved?
I know that, in Ontario, one can also file a complaint against the daycare to the Ministry of Education but before proceeding with that, I wanted to know what you guys thought? Has anyone experienced anything like this? How have you handled it?
Another relevant piece of info is that I was charged with assault on mother nearly 2 years ago and that matter is still under trial. The usual restrictions i.e. no contact, can't go where ex normally visits, works, etc are still in place.
A couple of months ago, I was able to obtain a court order which states mother shall sign direction at daycare to permit the father to directly obtain info regarding the child. In terms of physical access, currently it's only supervised (through another independent provider).
After this access to information order, I contacted the daycare and their demand is that I first must come in the center so they can verify my identity and basically know who I am.
When they found out about the bail conditions (effectively a restraining order), and the supervised visits, daycare says I'm not allowed to visit their site and they cannot allow me to be present on the premises while my daughter is inside.
I explained I will specifically come when mother is not there so as to not breach bail conditions. I further explained I will not seek access to my daughter and only want to come into their office and make some inquiries.
Daycare persists that they're not allowed to let me in, talk to me, etc while my daughter is present inside.
I said if I cannot come into the center, can I communicate with you over the email, I'll even send you my ID for verification; they said no.
At that point, the daycare lady got annoyed and said you and your ex need to figure this out, discuss it with the judge, don't put us in the middle of this and if I persist, she will discontinue communication.
I'm trying to understand and seeking input on is if the daycare's position is reasonable. Is that what they typically do? Or are they actually in violation of the access to info Order and incorrectly interpreting the restraining order? Should I just wait until my criminal matter is resolved?
I know that, in Ontario, one can also file a complaint against the daycare to the Ministry of Education but before proceeding with that, I wanted to know what you guys thought? Has anyone experienced anything like this? How have you handled it?
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