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Old 11-10-2019, 10:52 PM
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What I am saying is that we just got into a separation agreement and she has already been hinting at wanting to make changes to it to weasel out of ever reaching 50/50. She will file for a change to the agreement when she decides she does not want to enter further stages of the graduated steps.
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Old 11-10-2019, 10:57 PM
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She will have to demonstrate a material change which will not be easy to do.

Take a deep breath, remember you are dealing with a difficult person and remember your child.

Whenever she tries to change something you remind her of the agreement, what it allows you and then either ignore or politely decline her change.
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Old 11-11-2019, 12:37 AM
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I think this must be a mistake. I think you were trying to say if she picks up the kids and it is his time?
Yes, my error.

If she picks up the kids during his time, he can react at that point. He has subsequently indicated that he is more worried that she might change the agreement, which as rockscan pointed out, would be very difficult.

I think he is getting himself worked up over nothing. He has 50-50, it isn't changing.
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What I am saying is that we just got into a separation agreement and she has already been hinting at wanting to make changes to it to weasel out of ever reaching 50/50. She will file for a change to the agreement when she decides she does not want to enter further stages of the graduated steps.
A change to an agreement requires a material change in circumstance. Wanting a change is not a material change in circumstances. Check up the complexity of what it takes to change an agreement. It's not easy and the onus falls on the person requesting the change to prove there has been a material change in circumstance first before anything else happens.

Most separated parents talk TOO MUCh about their children. The most successful 50-50 parents talk very little with each other. Over-communication leads to conflict.
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Old 11-16-2019, 11:02 AM
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Most separated parents talk TOO MUCh about their children. The most successful 50-50 parents talk very little with each other. Over-communication leads to conflict.
Great Advice. I feel that my ex is constantly trying to build their case. Knows that they were stuck with the agreement as I would have likely gotten better at trial, and therefore costs awarded. So now my ex is trying to build a case to get our agreement undone with new evidence/material.

Is there any guideline or list of things that present a "material change". My ex is very opinionated and would even file because "they strongly feel its better their way".
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Old 11-17-2019, 07:50 AM
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What really gets me is the legal fees the other side makes you burn to defend something that will most likely go nowhere. Why does it have to cost so much money?? So much aggravation and only the lawyers win. Divorcing a high conflict dysfunctional spouse is bad enough as it is. Add how it will drain your bank account so that you may never recover financially when its all done... Because they eventually resurface for more and it never really my ends. It's like waiting for the other shoe to drop for the rest of your life. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. Stay strong and limit your contact with her.
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