How would you handle this?
My child is in with a counsellor. One of the issues is her eating. When she is at mom's they do pizza, subs, chips, pop, ext. (I have no idea what they eat this was just what child told the counsellor) At my home we do a lot of veg, beans, whole wheat, and meats.
Counsellor met with child, then met with mom, my wife, then me and child together. I don't know what she said to mom. My wife said that if it will help the eating that child could go shopping with her and they could pick more of the foods child likes but the counsellor said no as she thinks that child can't live on those foods and it was mom's choice on her time but that keep providing the foods that we are. Then child and I met with counsellor to come to an agreement and it was decided that she would eat the foods provide at least 50% of her meal. That she was going to keep a journal of the foods she liked.
So today I was at the school and learn that mom came to the school (my parenting day) and sent subway and a bag of chips. I told the school child could not have it, and followed up with mom that she is not to bring lunches on my parenting days, and that we need to work together on the plan the counsellor made. Mom informed me that she does this all the time (I wasn't aware of that) and that she feels its fine and that she will continue to because she wants child to eat that and that child doesn't like my foods.
Mom keeps messaging me today that she will not teach her child to starve and will continue to do this.
Child is 10. School is involved and upset that they feel they are in the middle. They just phoned me at home and said they don't want to get involved in food issues. I just told them they don't need to get involved if its mom's day mom provides lunch on my days I do, nothing to get involved about. Mom is telling me that Child will throw out the lunches I provide and ask for snacks at office (office keeps apples and oranges) I have not been told this by office or child.
What would you do?
I am saying that mom can feed what she wants on her days but to refrain from providing separate lunches on my days. To not undermine the work on feeding that is happening with the counsellor. That any issues she has with the plan she can discuss with the counsellor.
My child is in with a counsellor. One of the issues is her eating. When she is at mom's they do pizza, subs, chips, pop, ext. (I have no idea what they eat this was just what child told the counsellor) At my home we do a lot of veg, beans, whole wheat, and meats.
Counsellor met with child, then met with mom, my wife, then me and child together. I don't know what she said to mom. My wife said that if it will help the eating that child could go shopping with her and they could pick more of the foods child likes but the counsellor said no as she thinks that child can't live on those foods and it was mom's choice on her time but that keep providing the foods that we are. Then child and I met with counsellor to come to an agreement and it was decided that she would eat the foods provide at least 50% of her meal. That she was going to keep a journal of the foods she liked.
So today I was at the school and learn that mom came to the school (my parenting day) and sent subway and a bag of chips. I told the school child could not have it, and followed up with mom that she is not to bring lunches on my parenting days, and that we need to work together on the plan the counsellor made. Mom informed me that she does this all the time (I wasn't aware of that) and that she feels its fine and that she will continue to because she wants child to eat that and that child doesn't like my foods.
Mom keeps messaging me today that she will not teach her child to starve and will continue to do this.
Child is 10. School is involved and upset that they feel they are in the middle. They just phoned me at home and said they don't want to get involved in food issues. I just told them they don't need to get involved if its mom's day mom provides lunch on my days I do, nothing to get involved about. Mom is telling me that Child will throw out the lunches I provide and ask for snacks at office (office keeps apples and oranges) I have not been told this by office or child.
What would you do?
I am saying that mom can feed what she wants on her days but to refrain from providing separate lunches on my days. To not undermine the work on feeding that is happening with the counsellor. That any issues she has with the plan she can discuss with the counsellor.
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