I was thinking last night about all of you fine people, myself, my ex and more specifically how I NEVER had any idea that divorce would be as stressful as this. I hear your stories, I live my own, and it amazes me how many people I've known in my life who have been through divorce...yet I never knew they were possibly going through this kind of turmoil. Then I thought about some of my family members, friends, and co-worker and I realized that most of them have no idea what I'm going through.
By day: Hard working, happy go lucky guy - By Night: Depressed, stressed and anxiety ridden.
Makes me wonder how many people are around me and going through the same thing, yet I have no idea.
I've been thinking that maybe I should be reaching out more. I dunno. I am not very good and making my problems someone elses. But outside of this group, I really have no one.
I don't know about you guys, but I spend a lot of time, way to much time, thinking about what she's going to pull next. Unfortunatly she is from a family who will not give her healthy advice. And as mentioned in one of Jeff's blogs, she does not work and has a lot of time on her hands to think of ways to make my life miserable. I am constantly trying to figure out a way to appeal to her to keep the "dirt" out of this, for our sons sake. Yet I don't know exactly how to do this. I was thinking about printing some information from the internet about the impact of high conflict relationships on the children, to send to her. I want her to realize that my son is probably hearing and seeing more than she thinks. I think this is something that she needs to read yet I'm pretty sure it will just add fuel to the fire.
I am terrified that he is being exposed to her bitterness and there is no doubt in my mind that he is absorbing more than she knows.
Should I write her a letter telling her that I know this has all been very difficult, BUT, she has to think about our son and the effects of this on HIM. Should I try to appeal to her in some way?
I love this group and I thank you all so much for your information and for sharing your own stories. It has been very therapeutic for me, for sure. At least I no longer feel alone.
GDGM
By day: Hard working, happy go lucky guy - By Night: Depressed, stressed and anxiety ridden.
Makes me wonder how many people are around me and going through the same thing, yet I have no idea.
I've been thinking that maybe I should be reaching out more. I dunno. I am not very good and making my problems someone elses. But outside of this group, I really have no one.
I don't know about you guys, but I spend a lot of time, way to much time, thinking about what she's going to pull next. Unfortunatly she is from a family who will not give her healthy advice. And as mentioned in one of Jeff's blogs, she does not work and has a lot of time on her hands to think of ways to make my life miserable. I am constantly trying to figure out a way to appeal to her to keep the "dirt" out of this, for our sons sake. Yet I don't know exactly how to do this. I was thinking about printing some information from the internet about the impact of high conflict relationships on the children, to send to her. I want her to realize that my son is probably hearing and seeing more than she thinks. I think this is something that she needs to read yet I'm pretty sure it will just add fuel to the fire.
I am terrified that he is being exposed to her bitterness and there is no doubt in my mind that he is absorbing more than she knows.
Should I write her a letter telling her that I know this has all been very difficult, BUT, she has to think about our son and the effects of this on HIM. Should I try to appeal to her in some way?
I love this group and I thank you all so much for your information and for sharing your own stories. It has been very therapeutic for me, for sure. At least I no longer feel alone.
GDGM
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