.I am a
desperate father how is looking to protect his family from
destruction...I don't know if you have time to read my story..and
again it is a one sided story...I got married to my wife almost 6
years ago..Signs of obession and control...the statement were "You
can't have a social life away from me... will allow it but after
marriage you are not to go out by yourself"..other controlling signs
were choosing the wedding and items from A to Z...I agree that the
wedding is all about the bride..The priest (I am releigious)
has time and
time again that all this non-sense will change after the
wedding...Then we got married...the controlling rules were
enforced...from the 2nd day.."No phone calls to anyone away from
me"...
Anything that she doesn't like will explode into an argument and
eventually force confinement for me..
Part of keeping me under control was checking my cell phone and making
sure I am not contacting any one
5 month into the marriage and the day we were supposed to move.. A
friend of mine called me to congatulate me for the new apartment...I
have forgot to mention in it to her...she checked the phone and she
went all mad to the point that she locked me and the movers were
coming and as well as delivers to the new apartment ..I tried to force
myself out the house even though physical resistance..I couldn't
...Unwise from me was to call the cops to get me out of the house...we
both got charged and she was detained...and then my guilt and regret
paid lawyers to get us out of that..and I learned my lesson now ..
After getting out of that...the control kept on growing...I learned my
lesson but she didn't...one time taking my cell phone away...one time
stopping me from going to my P. Eng exam (she was suspicious that I
will meet up with my brother)...the list goes on and on...3 priests
tried to interfere and advice but she resisted..I left the apartment
for her twice in 2006.
I made the mistake of accepting the issue as is..and selfishly we
decided to have kids...even though her control touched on every aspect
of my life...the fights keeps on going as if there is any chance of me
resisting her decisions..irrational actions will be taken...breaking
expensive things around the house... shredding important documents
related to the house needs (taxes..and everything else)..
Now that I have kids , I only care for their well being and nothing
else in this world...
She has got me in a financial mess as her ambition to live in a
luxurious home as well as driving a 55K car..while she has work on and
off..
As soon as the first child was born ..she has brought her parents at
the house becuase she can't take care of any child...she barley took
care of the first child ..as for the second child not even a tad as
she decided to focus on her career...she mother is getting old and now
they decided for me to wake up at night if the kids woke up...
When I am home , I am taking care of both kids..feeding changing
putting both of them to sleep...she would leave home for hours and hours...her mom got sick so now she goes on with her and leave the kids
..
she completely ignores them, her well being and being the center of
attention is everything to her...she can start a fight with the whole
house (which sometimes can get physical) if she didn;t get the
attention she needs..
I have cut ties with anybody around me fearing the problem that she
can bring as well as the misery that she is capable of brining..My
father has told me that he will not be entering my house because of
the type of things that she made me tell him...
All that I am doing is for the sake of the kids..but the kids started
to see their father verbally abused continuously.
.so she will take
the wallet through the cloth and do other things to confine us
For a year now she reapts that there is no love, and she tried to kick
me out twice and throw my stuff in the garage...I had to beg for the
sake of my kids..as she will not take care of them.
From my excessive exahausation (as she now treats like a slave to tidy up the house clean the dishes wash the laundary..plus feeding changing putting to sleep waking up in th emiddle of the night), I was carrying my younger one from the house to th3e backyard then I have slipped and we both feel . My little one got bruised and a lip cut as well as a chipped baby tooth...we called 911....he is better now
she has threatened to gain custody by reporting th incident to child services..she also threatens her and her mother that i will never see the kids again and they gonna make up stuff to ensure that this happens
Please advice me ..what shall I do
my kids are witnessing abuse and neglect from their mother daily.
desperate father how is looking to protect his family from
destruction...I don't know if you have time to read my story..and
again it is a one sided story...I got married to my wife almost 6
years ago..Signs of obession and control...the statement were "You
can't have a social life away from me... will allow it but after
marriage you are not to go out by yourself"..other controlling signs
were choosing the wedding and items from A to Z...I agree that the
wedding is all about the bride..The priest (I am releigious)
has time and
time again that all this non-sense will change after the
wedding...Then we got married...the controlling rules were
enforced...from the 2nd day.."No phone calls to anyone away from
me"...
Anything that she doesn't like will explode into an argument and
eventually force confinement for me..
Part of keeping me under control was checking my cell phone and making
sure I am not contacting any one
5 month into the marriage and the day we were supposed to move.. A
friend of mine called me to congatulate me for the new apartment...I
have forgot to mention in it to her...she checked the phone and she
went all mad to the point that she locked me and the movers were
coming and as well as delivers to the new apartment ..I tried to force
myself out the house even though physical resistance..I couldn't
...Unwise from me was to call the cops to get me out of the house...we
both got charged and she was detained...and then my guilt and regret
paid lawyers to get us out of that..and I learned my lesson now ..
After getting out of that...the control kept on growing...I learned my
lesson but she didn't...one time taking my cell phone away...one time
stopping me from going to my P. Eng exam (she was suspicious that I
will meet up with my brother)...the list goes on and on...3 priests
tried to interfere and advice but she resisted..I left the apartment
for her twice in 2006.
I made the mistake of accepting the issue as is..and selfishly we
decided to have kids...even though her control touched on every aspect
of my life...the fights keeps on going as if there is any chance of me
resisting her decisions..irrational actions will be taken...breaking
expensive things around the house... shredding important documents
related to the house needs (taxes..and everything else)..
Now that I have kids , I only care for their well being and nothing
else in this world...
She has got me in a financial mess as her ambition to live in a
luxurious home as well as driving a 55K car..while she has work on and
off..
As soon as the first child was born ..she has brought her parents at
the house becuase she can't take care of any child...she barley took
care of the first child ..as for the second child not even a tad as
she decided to focus on her career...she mother is getting old and now
they decided for me to wake up at night if the kids woke up...
When I am home , I am taking care of both kids..feeding changing
putting both of them to sleep...she would leave home for hours and hours...her mom got sick so now she goes on with her and leave the kids
..
she completely ignores them, her well being and being the center of
attention is everything to her...she can start a fight with the whole
house (which sometimes can get physical) if she didn;t get the
attention she needs..
I have cut ties with anybody around me fearing the problem that she
can bring as well as the misery that she is capable of brining..My
father has told me that he will not be entering my house because of
the type of things that she made me tell him...
All that I am doing is for the sake of the kids..but the kids started
to see their father verbally abused continuously.
.so she will take
the wallet through the cloth and do other things to confine us
For a year now she reapts that there is no love, and she tried to kick
me out twice and throw my stuff in the garage...I had to beg for the
sake of my kids..as she will not take care of them.
From my excessive exahausation (as she now treats like a slave to tidy up the house clean the dishes wash the laundary..plus feeding changing putting to sleep waking up in th emiddle of the night), I was carrying my younger one from the house to th3e backyard then I have slipped and we both feel . My little one got bruised and a lip cut as well as a chipped baby tooth...we called 911....he is better now
she has threatened to gain custody by reporting th incident to child services..she also threatens her and her mother that i will never see the kids again and they gonna make up stuff to ensure that this happens
Please advice me ..what shall I do
my kids are witnessing abuse and neglect from their mother daily.
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