Advice and comments welcome.
I have a final settlement conference coming in two weeks and if we can't agree on custody, the judge will be sending our case to trial.
I have a serious autoimmune disease that flared up over the weekend and I'm in hospital for treatment. This only happens a couple of times a year or I can go as long as two years without feeling this ill. My ex knows I have this illness and would use it in a heartbeat if she thought it would give her leverage.
Do I keep my mouth shut and keep having my parents pick up my toddler son for parenting time as scheduled (they brought him to the hospital yesterday to spend time with me and then took him to my home for dinner and to sleep overnight in his crib at my place and took him home to his mom this morning)?
OR
Be open and try to have a clause in our custody agreement that during the 1 or 2 times a year, I am flaring that my parents will help out as much as needed while keeping the same parenting time schedule?
My ex is on welfare living with her mother (also on welfare) while I hold down full time work and try to stay healthy enough to work and spend time with my son.
Since access visits were moved to my house, we have kept it quiet if I am not feeling well and my parents help out as much as I need them too. I live with father and my mother lives about 30 minutes away.
Most of the time I feel just fine and have no problem with looking after my sons needs completely on my own. When my illness flares, I am flattened and can't usually even walk until treatment kicks in (a few days to a week at most).
I currently have my toddler son with me for 8 hours one weekday and one overnight (24 hours) on the weekend, every week.
My son's mom wants sole custody and has used false allegations of every kind of abuse to try and get it over the last year. CAS, police and court have all caught on it got her nowhere except digging a big hole for lying.
I feel like I am on thin ice no matter how this is handled.
Thoughts?
I have a final settlement conference coming in two weeks and if we can't agree on custody, the judge will be sending our case to trial.
I have a serious autoimmune disease that flared up over the weekend and I'm in hospital for treatment. This only happens a couple of times a year or I can go as long as two years without feeling this ill. My ex knows I have this illness and would use it in a heartbeat if she thought it would give her leverage.
Do I keep my mouth shut and keep having my parents pick up my toddler son for parenting time as scheduled (they brought him to the hospital yesterday to spend time with me and then took him to my home for dinner and to sleep overnight in his crib at my place and took him home to his mom this morning)?
OR
Be open and try to have a clause in our custody agreement that during the 1 or 2 times a year, I am flaring that my parents will help out as much as needed while keeping the same parenting time schedule?
My ex is on welfare living with her mother (also on welfare) while I hold down full time work and try to stay healthy enough to work and spend time with my son.
Since access visits were moved to my house, we have kept it quiet if I am not feeling well and my parents help out as much as I need them too. I live with father and my mother lives about 30 minutes away.
Most of the time I feel just fine and have no problem with looking after my sons needs completely on my own. When my illness flares, I am flattened and can't usually even walk until treatment kicks in (a few days to a week at most).
I currently have my toddler son with me for 8 hours one weekday and one overnight (24 hours) on the weekend, every week.
My son's mom wants sole custody and has used false allegations of every kind of abuse to try and get it over the last year. CAS, police and court have all caught on it got her nowhere except digging a big hole for lying.
I feel like I am on thin ice no matter how this is handled.
Thoughts?
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