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  • For me now the best part of divorce is not being called nasty names or pushed and shoved or slapped.

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    • Not divorced, recently seperated, but here we go ...
      • Being able to be social again and discovering and reconnecting with some amazing people
      • Being able to be as busy as I want; we had different energy levels
      • Not feeling stifled and surrounded by negativity
      • My place, always hated the house we lived in. And I have a view of the water!!!!!
      • And the best thing... my giant king sized bed!!! Love it!! lol

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      • Originally posted by atlanticcanadian View Post
        For me now the best part of divorce is not being called nasty names or pushed and shoved or slapped.
        Have to say atlantic, your post makes me realize how extremly lucky I am. All the best, glad your out of a situation like that.

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        • ...all of the above...

          plus...the way it feels...

          sheer excitement at prospect of~

          regaining freedom...autonomy...independence...

          ...all synomymous to "zen"

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          • I'm out

            Originally posted by mglee View Post
            Have to say atlantic, your post makes me realize how extremly lucky I am. All the best, glad your out of a situation like that.
            But when I got out, he said he had to find someone else to start all over again. God, I feel so sorry for her. I hope she doesn't lose teeth and her daughter doesn't get hurt.

            Trying to get the money from him is hell on wheels though and I am being so persistent.

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            • This is a good post. In all the negative of divorce, you sometimes need to be reminded that there was a good.

              So here's mine:
              -- having the whole bed to myself. I have a queen sized bed and my ex was a sprawler...and now I can sprawl and NOT have to fight for space. Tho, my kids are doing a damn good job of taking over, lol.
              -- being able to buy somethinig and not have to explain my purchase. It's soo great. Goes the same for saving money- I don't have to worry about a surprise purchase.
              -- making seafood!!! I can have my shrimp and not listen to gagging noises, lol.
              -- no more worrying that I'm being lied to.
              -- no more hunting crap-- no more WildTV, no more hunting seasons, no more mysterious venison steaks that won't get eaten.
              -- the music on my computer is ALL mine, and not mingled with crappy screamo music.

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              • The number one thing for me is no panic attacks. It is heaven to feel normal again and have self esteem!

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                • I had to change. She did not.
                  Now I am free to change or not if I want to.

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                  • best part of the divorce

                    We were common lawed for almost 5 years.

                    Let's see:

                    I no longer have to freeze cause he wants it colder in the house.
                    I no longer have to clean up his messes, do his laundry, cook his meals.
                    I no longer have to put him to bed drunk.
                    I no longer have to clean up spilt beer on the rugs.
                    I no longer have to call ambulances to check on him when he has been drinking heavy.
                    I no longer have to argue with him that he is an alcoholic and needs to go to rehab.
                    I am no longer feeling stressed every weekend.
                    I no longer have to worry about him dying of liver failure.
                    I no longer have to fight with his drinking buddies to go home.
                    I no longer have to explain his behaviour to people.
                    I no longer have to justify in my mind why he is being a a$$ hole.
                    I no longer have to deal with his whining over my music, or listen to his rock and roll music that is from the 70's. Apparently, he doesn't know that we have new bands in the world.
                    I no longer have to deal with his smell of sweat in the bedsheets and bedroom.
                    I no longer have to bleach the pillows and sheets and comforters.
                    The bedroom smells nice for a change.
                    I can go to the casino and not listen to him whine about it.
                    I no longer am paying for his share of the bills.
                    I have quiet in the house. No Tv's on with no one watching, no loud blasting TV's or music at 2 am fridday, saturady nights. (He's hard of hearing and wears hearing aids)
                    I am no longer embarrased by him hanging out in the garage with the door open, showing the world that all he does is listen to either Howard Stern or 70's music on satellite, and stand around drinking beer by himself.
                    I no longer have to deal with the teenaged boys dropping in to drink beer and smoke hash with him. (he's 48)
                    I no longer have to see Jerry Springer and other lowlife shows on the TV. (Sorry if you are into these shows, but they are mindless)
                    I no longer have to clean up spills in the fridge, old food in the sink, dirty shower stall, feet marks on the wooden floors (he would walk with his shoes in the house).
                    I no longer have to listen to him complaining about my daughter. Nor do I have to play referee between them.
                    I no longer have to deal with his daughter's attitude, whining or verbal assaults and/or her princess syndrome.
                    I do not have to clean up her room anymore.

                    Best Part!!!
                    I can date any one I want. I can have any kind of relationship I want. I can date a man of any age if I want to.
                    Being single is great. With only the dogs to deal with, at 45, the world is my oyster.
                    Another benefit from the divorce is finding out who my real friends are. My bestest and oldest friends are there for me, and they are supportive as heck. Glad I have them, and I appreciate them.

                    Life is great, and every day I remind myself that I will not allow him to cause me another day of unhappiness.

                    While I miss the companionship and partnership, I realize there are many men out there that will be happy to keep me warm at night. Wink.

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                    • Originally posted by bethers View Post
                      We were common lawed for almost 5 years.

                      Let's see:

                      I no longer have to freeze cause he wants it colder in the house.
                      I no longer have to clean up his messes, do his laundry, cook his meals.
                      I no longer have to put him to bed drunk.
                      I no longer have to clean up spilt beer on the rugs.
                      I no longer have to call ambulances to check on him when he has been drinking heavy.
                      I no longer have to argue with him that he is an alcoholic and needs to go to rehab.
                      I am no longer feeling stressed every weekend.
                      I no longer have to worry about him dying of liver failure.
                      I no longer have to fight with his drinking buddies to go home.
                      I no longer have to explain his behaviour to people.
                      I no longer have to justify in my mind why he is being a a$$ hole.
                      I no longer have to deal with his whining over my music, or listen to his rock and roll music that is from the 70's. Apparently, he doesn't know that we have new bands in the world.
                      I no longer have to deal with his smell of sweat in the bedsheets and bedroom.
                      I no longer have to bleach the pillows and sheets and comforters.
                      The bedroom smells nice for a change.
                      I can go to the casino and not listen to him whine about it.
                      I no longer am paying for his share of the bills.
                      I have quiet in the house. No Tv's on with no one watching, no loud blasting TV's or music at 2 am fridday, saturady nights. (He's hard of hearing and wears hearing aids)
                      I am no longer embarrased by him hanging out in the garage with the door open, showing the world that all he does is listen to either Howard Stern or 70's music on satellite, and stand around drinking beer by himself.
                      I no longer have to deal with the teenaged boys dropping in to drink beer and smoke hash with him. (he's 48)
                      I no longer have to see Jerry Springer and other lowlife shows on the TV. (Sorry if you are into these shows, but they are mindless)
                      I no longer have to clean up spills in the fridge, old food in the sink, dirty shower stall, feet marks on the wooden floors (he would walk with his shoes in the house).
                      I no longer have to listen to him complaining about my daughter. Nor do I have to play referee between them.
                      I no longer have to deal with his daughter's attitude, whining or verbal assaults and/or her princess syndrome.
                      I do not have to clean up her room anymore.

                      Best Part!!!
                      I can date any one I want. I can have any kind of relationship I want. I can date a man of any age if I want to.
                      Being single is great. With only the dogs to deal with, at 45, the world is my oyster.
                      Another benefit from the divorce is finding out who my real friends are. My bestest and oldest friends are there for me, and they are supportive as heck. Glad I have them, and I appreciate them.

                      Life is great, and every day I remind myself that I will not allow him to cause me another day of unhappiness.

                      While I miss the companionship and partnership, I realize there are many men out there that will be happy to keep me warm at night. Wink.
                      ahahahaa this made me laugh! You forgot to mention stinky shoes!
                      Good luck, Bethers - it only gets better.
                      Start a discussion, not a fire. Post with kindness.

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                      • Originally posted by bethers View Post

                        I no longer have to deal with his smell of sweat in the bedsheets and bedroom.
                        I no longer have to bleach the pillows and sheets and comforters.
                        The bedroom smells nice for a change.

                        OMG... I HATE THAT!!!!

                        You mean I'm not the only woman who has to deal with this yuckyness??

                        Holy crap!!

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                        • My 2nd answer .....

                          So I'm not divorced YET .... and I was separated and then got back together and now I have finally left for good .... So, now that I am confident with my decision and not looking back I'm going to say .... drumroll please ....

                          Finding out that I am worth more. That I can "do better". That I am more than a maid and a wife and a mother, that I am a PERSON and that there are people who genuinely care about my opinion!

                          Oh, and also that even though my spouse cheated on me I have worked on myself enough that I don't think every man is a cheater and a liar! That is a great discovery! Trust people for who THEY are not for who other people are!

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