So after 8 months the STBX finally agreed to 50 / 50 joint custody in a conversation we had and I agreed to list the house for sale sometime in October. However, I told her I wanted something in writing documenting the 50 / 50 joint custody (even if quick and dirty).
Now she is saying that the agreement will take time but we will work thru over the 3 months that we wait for the house to close. And that the agreement will require back and forth. I think she is balking because CS is minimal in a 50 / 50 scenario and going to want to negotiate higher then table amount AS WELL as SS which there is no real entitlement.
Basically she said if I don't sign to sell the house that 50 / 50 is off the table now! I feel like I'm being blackmailed and if I sign to list the house, then tomorrow she will use the same for higher the table CS, and then later for SS, and on and on. I can't believe she would use 50 / 50 as ransom to get everything she wants (and not entitled to).
She is also saying if I don't sign to list that she will file a motion to have it sold and seek costs. Our case conference is December so motions would probably be in Jan.
So any advice would be appreciated.
1. The obvious - should I hold off signing to list unless she signs something around even the basic custody agreement i.e. joint 50 / 50? If so what's the quickest thing to pull together and have her sign?
2. If I agree to sign and list as we work thru the agreement over the next 3 month close - what happens with the kids if we get close the closing date with nothing signed in regards to the children and just move into separate residences? FYI - While co-habitating in the matrimonial home over the last 8 months we have had a 2 - 2 - 5 schedule.
3. Does anyone have a similar experience or general thoughts or advice on best approach to take?
As always, the forum's thoughts are much appreciated.
Now she is saying that the agreement will take time but we will work thru over the 3 months that we wait for the house to close. And that the agreement will require back and forth. I think she is balking because CS is minimal in a 50 / 50 scenario and going to want to negotiate higher then table amount AS WELL as SS which there is no real entitlement.
Basically she said if I don't sign to sell the house that 50 / 50 is off the table now! I feel like I'm being blackmailed and if I sign to list the house, then tomorrow she will use the same for higher the table CS, and then later for SS, and on and on. I can't believe she would use 50 / 50 as ransom to get everything she wants (and not entitled to).
She is also saying if I don't sign to list that she will file a motion to have it sold and seek costs. Our case conference is December so motions would probably be in Jan.
So any advice would be appreciated.
1. The obvious - should I hold off signing to list unless she signs something around even the basic custody agreement i.e. joint 50 / 50? If so what's the quickest thing to pull together and have her sign?
2. If I agree to sign and list as we work thru the agreement over the next 3 month close - what happens with the kids if we get close the closing date with nothing signed in regards to the children and just move into separate residences? FYI - While co-habitating in the matrimonial home over the last 8 months we have had a 2 - 2 - 5 schedule.
3. Does anyone have a similar experience or general thoughts or advice on best approach to take?
As always, the forum's thoughts are much appreciated.
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