What would you do if, instead of breaking up with your ex, she had died? Then you'd HAVE to take the kids to the hospital with your dad and rearrange the volunteering, etc etc.
What we see is someone who says he wants to be the parent, that there is no CP or NCP distinction, but then turns around and behaves like a NCP, assuming that the ex will pick up the slack whenever having the kids would be an inconvenience to you. And then complaining when the ex treats you as someone who doesn't want to see your own kids.
If you have some sort of First Refusal, and are offering your ex the first chance to look after them when these other things crop up in your life, that's not coming across very well. What we are seeing, though, is someone who seems to be prioritizing other aspects of his life over his children, despite what you are saying.
I never liked the sucking and blowing metaphor, but certainly your actions are speaking louder than your words here. You are talking the talk but you are not walking the walk.
What we see is someone who says he wants to be the parent, that there is no CP or NCP distinction, but then turns around and behaves like a NCP, assuming that the ex will pick up the slack whenever having the kids would be an inconvenience to you. And then complaining when the ex treats you as someone who doesn't want to see your own kids.
If you have some sort of First Refusal, and are offering your ex the first chance to look after them when these other things crop up in your life, that's not coming across very well. What we are seeing, though, is someone who seems to be prioritizing other aspects of his life over his children, despite what you are saying.
I never liked the sucking and blowing metaphor, but certainly your actions are speaking louder than your words here. You are talking the talk but you are not walking the walk.
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