I've been stumbling on what is the right way. I've done both curb side and walking to the door. This is only for sick days, snow days, holidays, or other times where school exchange is not possible.
Historically, it had been at the door. This had escalated to the point child wasn't allowed to hug me or would get in trouble, and she just didn't want me to walk her to the door. I explained to the child that gentlemen's walk their princesses to the door. But child was still stressed so I started doing curb sides.
Now mom will come to my door and her body language is: she is looking to get a reaction from me or otherwise upset me. Recently, I feel she is trying to get the child to feel I'm a bad person and against her mom because I don't say hello to her. I say this because of an "instinct" feeling and as she has previously complained to me in email for not saying "hello" to her. She has some expectations that I "have to" say hello to her Everytime I see her.
Question now is, is curbside an acceptable way in a shared arrangement? I have read that it is a good thing because conflict can't spark but also read it is a bad thing because the children see the parents avoiding each other.
What is everyone take on this? How do you handle exchanges? I feel right thing to do is be super cordial (as I want to be) and set a good example for the kid and just ignore mom's body language.
My biggest concern is mom using these to turn the child against me in the future in the sense she is the good person who walks to my door and I'm the one who avoids and ignores her.
Thoughts and suggestions?
Historically, it had been at the door. This had escalated to the point child wasn't allowed to hug me or would get in trouble, and she just didn't want me to walk her to the door. I explained to the child that gentlemen's walk their princesses to the door. But child was still stressed so I started doing curb sides.
Now mom will come to my door and her body language is: she is looking to get a reaction from me or otherwise upset me. Recently, I feel she is trying to get the child to feel I'm a bad person and against her mom because I don't say hello to her. I say this because of an "instinct" feeling and as she has previously complained to me in email for not saying "hello" to her. She has some expectations that I "have to" say hello to her Everytime I see her.
Question now is, is curbside an acceptable way in a shared arrangement? I have read that it is a good thing because conflict can't spark but also read it is a bad thing because the children see the parents avoiding each other.
What is everyone take on this? How do you handle exchanges? I feel right thing to do is be super cordial (as I want to be) and set a good example for the kid and just ignore mom's body language.
My biggest concern is mom using these to turn the child against me in the future in the sense she is the good person who walks to my door and I'm the one who avoids and ignores her.
Thoughts and suggestions?
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