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How does one work this mess out?
In the past, the NCP was responsible for everything for the child in his home. From underwear to rain boots - you name it, the NCP had purchased the items for his home, on top of paying child support. This was practiced for years because the CP would not provide any items for visits. (The few she did provide in the beginning, she would demand money for because "after the visit" she noticed a stain or tear. So she stopped providing clothing and other necessities altogether when the NCP refused to play her game and hand over the cash for items that were ruined on arrival.)
One day in court, the NCP brought this issue up, claiming that it was too expensive to have to pay child support AND provide the child with all the necessities in his home during visits and vacations. The judge indicated that it is common practice for CP's to provide clothing and necessities with the child each visit, because that is what child support is for. (This was not written in the order, just stated matter-of-factly by the judge.)
NCP began relying on CP to provide these necessities. Although CP would provide a bag with a few outfits, it was never enough and many of the actual necessities were missing, causing the NCP to have to purchase the items for the child.
NCP attempted to ask the CP to reimburse him for the items by providing receipts and valid reasons as to why the purchases were required (ex: the child was to attend daycamp but was no provided with a backpack; the child had soccer lessons but was not provided with soccer cleats, let alone running shoes; the child had swimming lessons but was not provided with a swimsuit; the weather has been rainy and cool lately but the child was not provided with a raincoat or long sleeve shirt or pants; etc.) But the CP will have none of it. The CP feels that she is not in the wrong and that it is the NCP's choice to purchase these items... despite the emails the NCP sent to the CP reminder her of the required items 3 days prior to him picking up the child. Again, the CP feels that she has acted accordingly in every way. (For a 10-day visit, the child was sent with 3-4 outfits consisting of shorts and t-shirts and one pair of sandals. No sweaters or coats for cooler or rainy days or evenings, no running shoes required to attend his daycamp, no swimshorts required for his swimming lessons, etc.)
The NCP has spent over $120 on these items in order to provide the child with the necessities for his activities. The CP was fully aware of the activities the child would be involved in during his vacation time with the NCP, yet still failed to provide the items.
Is it worth the fight?
What can be said to the CP to maybe open her eyes to her failing to be a responsible CP by providing common every-day necessities?
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.
In the past, the NCP was responsible for everything for the child in his home. From underwear to rain boots - you name it, the NCP had purchased the items for his home, on top of paying child support. This was practiced for years because the CP would not provide any items for visits. (The few she did provide in the beginning, she would demand money for because "after the visit" she noticed a stain or tear. So she stopped providing clothing and other necessities altogether when the NCP refused to play her game and hand over the cash for items that were ruined on arrival.)
One day in court, the NCP brought this issue up, claiming that it was too expensive to have to pay child support AND provide the child with all the necessities in his home during visits and vacations. The judge indicated that it is common practice for CP's to provide clothing and necessities with the child each visit, because that is what child support is for. (This was not written in the order, just stated matter-of-factly by the judge.)
NCP began relying on CP to provide these necessities. Although CP would provide a bag with a few outfits, it was never enough and many of the actual necessities were missing, causing the NCP to have to purchase the items for the child.
NCP attempted to ask the CP to reimburse him for the items by providing receipts and valid reasons as to why the purchases were required (ex: the child was to attend daycamp but was no provided with a backpack; the child had soccer lessons but was not provided with soccer cleats, let alone running shoes; the child had swimming lessons but was not provided with a swimsuit; the weather has been rainy and cool lately but the child was not provided with a raincoat or long sleeve shirt or pants; etc.) But the CP will have none of it. The CP feels that she is not in the wrong and that it is the NCP's choice to purchase these items... despite the emails the NCP sent to the CP reminder her of the required items 3 days prior to him picking up the child. Again, the CP feels that she has acted accordingly in every way. (For a 10-day visit, the child was sent with 3-4 outfits consisting of shorts and t-shirts and one pair of sandals. No sweaters or coats for cooler or rainy days or evenings, no running shoes required to attend his daycamp, no swimshorts required for his swimming lessons, etc.)
The NCP has spent over $120 on these items in order to provide the child with the necessities for his activities. The CP was fully aware of the activities the child would be involved in during his vacation time with the NCP, yet still failed to provide the items.
Is it worth the fight?
What can be said to the CP to maybe open her eyes to her failing to be a responsible CP by providing common every-day necessities?
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.
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