Here we go again---Last year June 2011 my ex asked me to start paying babysitting expenses...I said sure, no problem...just give me the receipts (our separation agreement from 2008 stated that she was to notify me if any section 7 expenses were to occur, give me receipts, in which I had 20 days to pay) Because she refused to give me any receipts---I refused to pay.
October 2011--Ex gets a lawyer and files a motion for increase in child support, babysitting expenses and an activity expense for our son (She never informed me of this activity until I received the lawyer letter/filing for court) She has also never gave me a receipt for this activity to this day.
My every other weekend had always been Friday-Sunday. When I first started the job...I was on afternoon shift--Mon-Fri 3pm-11pm. Ex would have me pick the kids (2 and 5 at the time) at her house at midnight...we'd get back home to my place at around 1am.
I was able to change my work schedule to midnights...this gave me a work week of Sun-Thurs. So I was off on the Fridays and able to pick the kids up at 6pm then---much more reasonable time for the kids!
But then my work ended up having to switch me back to afternoon shift---so I'm working until 11pm again on the Fridays. Ex expected me to go back to picking the kids up from her at midnight. I told her no--it wasn't fair to the kids---why couldn't she drive them to my house where my girlfriend would be/available to watch the kids until I got home from work. Girlfriend has been in the kids life for a couple years---Ex actually asked girlfriend to watch the kids for a week in 2010 so she could go to Mexico----so it shouldn't have been a problem....but now ex is furious saying girlfriend isn't ever allowed to watch the kids and she will not drive them to her on the Fridays for us.
I got my lawyer after I received her motion.
We got it settled out of court with one negotiation meeting. My lawyer got my access changed to Sat-Mon (I take the kids to school Monday morning) that way ex couldn't keep denying me the Fridays.
My lawyer got a holiday schedule for me---as ex and her father refused my Christmas with them---very hostile situation, that was---her father was waiting in the drive way, stole my girlfriends drivers license/insurance information and denied me access to the kids.
Ex got her increase in child support and got the back pay to 2011, even though she never followed the agreement by filing for all this stuff at the appropriate times---she set me up to be in arrears.
Ex got her babysitting...she wanted backpay to 2010...she ended up getting backpay to 2011. This was based on an incident where she scammed extra child support money from me by using FRO...basically she collected money from me and then called FRO and said I had never paid. She scammed $4000 this way. I could only prove $1700 in cheques. So her lawyer said "If you drop the $1700 she owes you that you can prove, we will drop the 2010 babysitting"
We have a "right of first refusal" clause...it was in the original 2008 agreement and it is in the amendment. She has never followed it.
So now that I've began paying her babysitting....whatever amounts she tells me....I give her a cheque with an explanation saying "I am not responsible for this day, as it was a pd day at school...you never gave me the option to care for the kids" (She thinks I won't know it is a pd day/thinks she can pull a fast one on me)
She actually tried making me pay for a Stat day when she wasn't working....I called her out on that one too...never paid it....also told her that I wasn't paying for the Christmas holidays that her and her father refused me my access/never gave me right of first refusal while they were on holidays.
She's still getting the babysitting money from me......but I am only paying for what I am responsible for.
Now she just sends me an e-mail saying that she talked to her lawyer and I need to pay her $102 for the Christmas holidays and pd days because those dates were before we signed the amendment.
Umm right of first refusal has been in our original agreement since 2008.
She said if I don't pay her, they are filing a motion of contempt.
October 2011--Ex gets a lawyer and files a motion for increase in child support, babysitting expenses and an activity expense for our son (She never informed me of this activity until I received the lawyer letter/filing for court) She has also never gave me a receipt for this activity to this day.
My every other weekend had always been Friday-Sunday. When I first started the job...I was on afternoon shift--Mon-Fri 3pm-11pm. Ex would have me pick the kids (2 and 5 at the time) at her house at midnight...we'd get back home to my place at around 1am.
I was able to change my work schedule to midnights...this gave me a work week of Sun-Thurs. So I was off on the Fridays and able to pick the kids up at 6pm then---much more reasonable time for the kids!
But then my work ended up having to switch me back to afternoon shift---so I'm working until 11pm again on the Fridays. Ex expected me to go back to picking the kids up from her at midnight. I told her no--it wasn't fair to the kids---why couldn't she drive them to my house where my girlfriend would be/available to watch the kids until I got home from work. Girlfriend has been in the kids life for a couple years---Ex actually asked girlfriend to watch the kids for a week in 2010 so she could go to Mexico----so it shouldn't have been a problem....but now ex is furious saying girlfriend isn't ever allowed to watch the kids and she will not drive them to her on the Fridays for us.
I got my lawyer after I received her motion.
We got it settled out of court with one negotiation meeting. My lawyer got my access changed to Sat-Mon (I take the kids to school Monday morning) that way ex couldn't keep denying me the Fridays.
My lawyer got a holiday schedule for me---as ex and her father refused my Christmas with them---very hostile situation, that was---her father was waiting in the drive way, stole my girlfriends drivers license/insurance information and denied me access to the kids.
Ex got her increase in child support and got the back pay to 2011, even though she never followed the agreement by filing for all this stuff at the appropriate times---she set me up to be in arrears.
Ex got her babysitting...she wanted backpay to 2010...she ended up getting backpay to 2011. This was based on an incident where she scammed extra child support money from me by using FRO...basically she collected money from me and then called FRO and said I had never paid. She scammed $4000 this way. I could only prove $1700 in cheques. So her lawyer said "If you drop the $1700 she owes you that you can prove, we will drop the 2010 babysitting"
We have a "right of first refusal" clause...it was in the original 2008 agreement and it is in the amendment. She has never followed it.
So now that I've began paying her babysitting....whatever amounts she tells me....I give her a cheque with an explanation saying "I am not responsible for this day, as it was a pd day at school...you never gave me the option to care for the kids" (She thinks I won't know it is a pd day/thinks she can pull a fast one on me)
She actually tried making me pay for a Stat day when she wasn't working....I called her out on that one too...never paid it....also told her that I wasn't paying for the Christmas holidays that her and her father refused me my access/never gave me right of first refusal while they were on holidays.
She's still getting the babysitting money from me......but I am only paying for what I am responsible for.
Now she just sends me an e-mail saying that she talked to her lawyer and I need to pay her $102 for the Christmas holidays and pd days because those dates were before we signed the amendment.
Umm right of first refusal has been in our original agreement since 2008.
She said if I don't pay her, they are filing a motion of contempt.
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