Hello everyone, I am looking for a second, third, fourth opinion on this thing:
Separated over 1 year, still living in the matrimonial home because of the two children. STBX extremely upset and revengeful because i filed for divorce and all the fun stuff with the court a couple of weeks ago.
We have tried negotiating everything for months but turned around in circles because what we agreed on one day was un-agreed the next day by her.
She was supposed to purchase my interest in the home last week but changed the amount at the last moment. That would have been ok but she also wanted to change the access schedule, therefore I would go under the 40% for both children instead of only the youngest (almost 2 years old). In preparation for what I thought was my final move I rented another place and got some new furniture for the kids room, etc.
Since I had the new place I started sleeping overnights there for 2 weeks. She changed the locks on the doors to the matrimonial home as advised by her new lawyer. I rang the doorbell, she let me in, I changed the locks back and have been there this past week again and will stay there until this is over.
She told me a couple of months ago that a friend of hers would be coming from Europe for a visit in May. I had no problems with this because the home should had been hers in May. My stbx just told me that the friend arrives next Monday and would stay for 2.5 weeks. I honestly don't want her in my home. I don't know this person and don't want the added stress of yet another pair of eyes scrutinizing what and when and where i do with my kids. Can I legally ask my stbx to ask the friend stay in a hotel? Does this do anything to my reasonableness in front of a judge when we get there in June for the case conference? Should I allow her to stay but charge rent, and how much (mortgage $2000 per month)? What do you think?
Thanks,
pinto
Separated over 1 year, still living in the matrimonial home because of the two children. STBX extremely upset and revengeful because i filed for divorce and all the fun stuff with the court a couple of weeks ago.
We have tried negotiating everything for months but turned around in circles because what we agreed on one day was un-agreed the next day by her.
She was supposed to purchase my interest in the home last week but changed the amount at the last moment. That would have been ok but she also wanted to change the access schedule, therefore I would go under the 40% for both children instead of only the youngest (almost 2 years old). In preparation for what I thought was my final move I rented another place and got some new furniture for the kids room, etc.
Since I had the new place I started sleeping overnights there for 2 weeks. She changed the locks on the doors to the matrimonial home as advised by her new lawyer. I rang the doorbell, she let me in, I changed the locks back and have been there this past week again and will stay there until this is over.
She told me a couple of months ago that a friend of hers would be coming from Europe for a visit in May. I had no problems with this because the home should had been hers in May. My stbx just told me that the friend arrives next Monday and would stay for 2.5 weeks. I honestly don't want her in my home. I don't know this person and don't want the added stress of yet another pair of eyes scrutinizing what and when and where i do with my kids. Can I legally ask my stbx to ask the friend stay in a hotel? Does this do anything to my reasonableness in front of a judge when we get there in June for the case conference? Should I allow her to stay but charge rent, and how much (mortgage $2000 per month)? What do you think?
Thanks,
pinto
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