The situation:
- I am non-custodial father with 40% access.
- I am leaving the country tomorrow (Sunday) for 4 weeks to take care of my mother.
- This weekend D9 is with me and my partner (of 8 years).
- Our agreement indicates that if either of us is away overnight, then the other parent has first 'right' to care for the child, and there are timelines given for how much notice times to give, and how much time for other parent to respond (I have given more notice than necessary, she responded late, but no matter). We have agreed in this case that she will look after D9 while I am away.
I have indicated that handover can be done between my partner and her anytime after they get back from the airport (any time after 6:30pm), or my partner can take D9 to school Monday morning. We live very close together so handover location is not an issue.
There is no history of hostility between her and my partner, and they have occasional direct (uneventful, cordial) contact thru the school. My partner and D9 have a good relationship also.
Custodial mother is asking for details of my flight, and is claiming that if I don't agree to handover BEFORE I leave for the airport that she will pursue termination of my access rights.
And, she holds D9's passport, so no concern that I might be abducting D9. Though we 3 did fly last-moment this March Break without passports to ski out west (because there was no snow here). Over the years, we have both traveled out of country with D9 with no issues. Consent letters and passports duly requested and provided.
Thoughts, recommendations?
- I am non-custodial father with 40% access.
- I am leaving the country tomorrow (Sunday) for 4 weeks to take care of my mother.
- This weekend D9 is with me and my partner (of 8 years).
- Our agreement indicates that if either of us is away overnight, then the other parent has first 'right' to care for the child, and there are timelines given for how much notice times to give, and how much time for other parent to respond (I have given more notice than necessary, she responded late, but no matter). We have agreed in this case that she will look after D9 while I am away.
I have indicated that handover can be done between my partner and her anytime after they get back from the airport (any time after 6:30pm), or my partner can take D9 to school Monday morning. We live very close together so handover location is not an issue.
There is no history of hostility between her and my partner, and they have occasional direct (uneventful, cordial) contact thru the school. My partner and D9 have a good relationship also.
Custodial mother is asking for details of my flight, and is claiming that if I don't agree to handover BEFORE I leave for the airport that she will pursue termination of my access rights.
And, she holds D9's passport, so no concern that I might be abducting D9. Though we 3 did fly last-moment this March Break without passports to ski out west (because there was no snow here). Over the years, we have both traveled out of country with D9 with no issues. Consent letters and passports duly requested and provided.
Thoughts, recommendations?
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