Okay- so I know this situation is NOT so special or unique. Exes lie like cheap rugs all. the. time.
I'm not talking about different view points- or differing opinions. I mean flat out lies.
During our 3rd co-parent counselling session yesterday my ex just bold faced lied.
The first time is when we were discussing an anaphylactic reaction our daughter had that required an epi and hospital stay. In the ambulance- I called and left a voicemail for her dad and left a message at his mom's where he's living. I also texted. After meds were administered at the hospital- I returned a call his sister had made to me and she told me that Ex was at a work event and couldn't be reached until 9. Flat out lie. He wasn't at a work event- he was somewhere else. Where? I didn't know and I didn't really care. But I wanted to address the issue because while I get that his sister was probably just lying to protect her brother or she didn't know what she could or couldn't tell me- my concern is that they don't tell me full truths about what happens with D2 - either because they don't want to share information- or because..I don't know. There's been a handful of other minor situations that I've caught them doing this. I don't bother calling them out on it- but it really bothers me.
anyways- he said that I never text him- and left the message after 6pm- he said he was writing an exam and wasn't allowed his phone.
Okaaay. But I showed him the text from 4:30pm.
He said he got confused.
Another instance he said while he yelled at me often- and in the presence of D2..he never actually hit me. I calmly told him about the two times he put his hands on me- not hitting- but arm twisting once when I was pregnant...and another time body checking me away from D2 when she was an infant. He said the arm twisting was in response to me punching him in the face. Cue my head exploding. None of that happened.
I got up and left. The counsellor came after me and talked me down and said I need to keep trying for our daughter's sake. I get that.
But how? How do you deal with the outright lies?
Are you guys tracking all the lies to use in court? Should I be doing this?
I'm not talking about different view points- or differing opinions. I mean flat out lies.
During our 3rd co-parent counselling session yesterday my ex just bold faced lied.
The first time is when we were discussing an anaphylactic reaction our daughter had that required an epi and hospital stay. In the ambulance- I called and left a voicemail for her dad and left a message at his mom's where he's living. I also texted. After meds were administered at the hospital- I returned a call his sister had made to me and she told me that Ex was at a work event and couldn't be reached until 9. Flat out lie. He wasn't at a work event- he was somewhere else. Where? I didn't know and I didn't really care. But I wanted to address the issue because while I get that his sister was probably just lying to protect her brother or she didn't know what she could or couldn't tell me- my concern is that they don't tell me full truths about what happens with D2 - either because they don't want to share information- or because..I don't know. There's been a handful of other minor situations that I've caught them doing this. I don't bother calling them out on it- but it really bothers me.
anyways- he said that I never text him- and left the message after 6pm- he said he was writing an exam and wasn't allowed his phone.
Okaaay. But I showed him the text from 4:30pm.
He said he got confused.
Another instance he said while he yelled at me often- and in the presence of D2..he never actually hit me. I calmly told him about the two times he put his hands on me- not hitting- but arm twisting once when I was pregnant...and another time body checking me away from D2 when she was an infant. He said the arm twisting was in response to me punching him in the face. Cue my head exploding. None of that happened.
I got up and left. The counsellor came after me and talked me down and said I need to keep trying for our daughter's sake. I get that.
But how? How do you deal with the outright lies?
Are you guys tracking all the lies to use in court? Should I be doing this?
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