I would like to talk for a moment about my own concerns.
just tired of being harassed by my EX. I made a comment sometime ago and this is how I really feel. "I fart, he files." sorry for the reference but honestly that is what my situation has been reduced to.
We separtaed in the spring of 2004 went to trial in Dec 07. He turned around and put it to appeal. It was dismissed. So here we are almost in 2011. the other day I get an email that he wants me to contact the court to set up a conference date. (this is still over his grumble not mine) What it basically is is he still begrudges me support. Fine. Honestly I dont care what he thinks. He just wants to continue playing the victem. While at trial the judge granted an amount for SS. Tables were never consulted by anyone and the end result is that what I was given is 1/3 plus a little of what he should be paying. I knew this was low but sucked it up. I have always felt that I have a bit of responsibility to rebuilding my life and have been trying to do so. This latest episode of his to get back in court over this is about the 10th time now. Why should I have to keep putting up with this. is there anything a person can do to end the nonsense once and for all. Why cant he see that he is actually pretty lucky that I say nothing.
I have been considering a cross claim if you call it that. 1. He is in contempt as he has not provided income info over the last 4 years that is requested under the order. 2. wonder if a judge would consider reviewing the support as what was given was so under the guidelines for both CS & SS? then brings up the question of retro.
I know I will take alot of backlash about all this from alot of payors around here. so be it. What I really would like is some constructive advice in how to get him to just back off. My lawyer tells me I am doing nothing wrong and need is still there. The thing is is that this divorce while extremely needed has destroyed me both financially and career wise.
Just seeking a little peace for a change and if anyone has a thought would love to hear it.
just tired of being harassed by my EX. I made a comment sometime ago and this is how I really feel. "I fart, he files." sorry for the reference but honestly that is what my situation has been reduced to.
We separtaed in the spring of 2004 went to trial in Dec 07. He turned around and put it to appeal. It was dismissed. So here we are almost in 2011. the other day I get an email that he wants me to contact the court to set up a conference date. (this is still over his grumble not mine) What it basically is is he still begrudges me support. Fine. Honestly I dont care what he thinks. He just wants to continue playing the victem. While at trial the judge granted an amount for SS. Tables were never consulted by anyone and the end result is that what I was given is 1/3 plus a little of what he should be paying. I knew this was low but sucked it up. I have always felt that I have a bit of responsibility to rebuilding my life and have been trying to do so. This latest episode of his to get back in court over this is about the 10th time now. Why should I have to keep putting up with this. is there anything a person can do to end the nonsense once and for all. Why cant he see that he is actually pretty lucky that I say nothing.
I have been considering a cross claim if you call it that. 1. He is in contempt as he has not provided income info over the last 4 years that is requested under the order. 2. wonder if a judge would consider reviewing the support as what was given was so under the guidelines for both CS & SS? then brings up the question of retro.
I know I will take alot of backlash about all this from alot of payors around here. so be it. What I really would like is some constructive advice in how to get him to just back off. My lawyer tells me I am doing nothing wrong and need is still there. The thing is is that this divorce while extremely needed has destroyed me both financially and career wise.
Just seeking a little peace for a change and if anyone has a thought would love to hear it.
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