Originally posted by May_May
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HAP leads to PA. From your description it sounds like you are dealing with HAP versus PA. there are very good suggestions already in this thread to deal with HAP.
The one thing ALL parents need to understand about the HAP->PA process is that it only leads to PA when the other parent has very little to no access. (Extreme cases.)
Parents engaging in HAP often stop once a solicitor notifies the parent they may be engaged in it.
Also, a warning to parents who in engage in HAP. It can often backfire. You are not doing something that is "original". Every dirty trick you can pull is well known in the divorce industry. So when you think you are being "original" someone has already done it and there is a posted decision about it.
For example a parent engaging in HAP will often say "the child doesn't want to go to parent X house". Justice Quinn nipped this one in the but with a WELL KNOWN decision about children who refuse to go on an exchange. The parent should do what a parent would do with a child who doesn't want to go to school. Make them go.
If you get a letter from a solicitor from the other side with weird things like this... Just look it up in CanLII.org and quote back the decision at them.
Many parents interpret HAP as PA. PA is a syndrome which is not recognized in psychology. It is a theory. So, it depends on the expert investigating the situation.
HAP can also backfire on the parent who is engaged. The children often revolt.
Parents need to always realize that their children *love* both parents. Each parent makes of *half* of who they are. If you insult or bad moth the other parent always remember this: You are insulting *half* of your child and the child may interpret it as this and revolt.
With HAP just point it out and ask for it to stop.
Good Luck!
Tayken
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