Make no mistake - I believe your ex is a deadbeat. I'm sure many others agree. You're reading too much into this I think.
Now you are deflecting and trying to make this a male/female thing.
When a person starts a thread they are inviting people to express their opinions. You won't agree with everything/everyone.
It is apparent to me that you have selective reading. An example is my stating you (and I) are enablers. You have decided to take this personally instead of contemplating my message to you which is very simple - If you continue to pay for everything you are letting your ex off the hook and sending a salient message to her that it's okay for her not to pay. Therefore you are enforcing her behavior. She will not pay because she doesn't have to and has no personal consequences for not paying.
Now you are deflecting and trying to make this a male/female thing.
When a person starts a thread they are inviting people to express their opinions. You won't agree with everything/everyone.
It is apparent to me that you have selective reading. An example is my stating you (and I) are enablers. You have decided to take this personally instead of contemplating my message to you which is very simple - If you continue to pay for everything you are letting your ex off the hook and sending a salient message to her that it's okay for her not to pay. Therefore you are enforcing her behavior. She will not pay because she doesn't have to and has no personal consequences for not paying.
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