So I have an issue which I would like ideas (the "correct" way of leaving the kids out of it - completely)
I have gone real slow with her as I do realize that today she is bringing in the income and her income keeps this family barely going. Ok i admited i am slow in sinking in but it just doesn't matter - what matters is today going forward....
So there is no joint money left. incomes are split - bills continue to pile. My name is the principle owner of all tthe utilities - I have top level credit rating and I will not loose this (I figure it will be required to do whatever financing I will need after the divorce concidering my limited CPP disability income). I already spent a couple of days a few weeks past staring at my first bill that was overdue with less than $100 in the account. I paid that bill, the two next and I did the right thing by claiming my interest in the remaining few hundred on the 20th when her pay (by automatic electronic transfer every 14 days) was not deposited on the 18th.
Recently I heard suggestions of, cutting the tv satillite back (which I did last year) putting a long distance stop on the phone (we do have a 1500 min a month plan for $5 and we never come close) and a few others that make sense to limit exposure to expenses and each of those options will impact the kids - something I would like to avoid. This is not their fault. and ?????
Enter STBX who last week took into her personal control ALL the money including the RESP accounts (so I can only hope there that it remains the kids as no matter how hard our situation got we never touched the kid's money, the tuition money which was for tuition - never). The STBX didn't bother to come home last night - this after I told her that taking the kids school money was the last straw and she needed to 1 - repay the 1,184.27 from the tuition portion that I paid (1/2 the amount) and she needed to find A DIFFERENT PLACE TO SLEEP. The money I can live with - the sleeping in the same room, same bed - never again. Told her yesterday that she needed to come up with solutions to move forward instead of complaining and the desperate manovering that she has been doing for the last few months.
SHe arrived last night at 4:15 am - things got real heated (I kept my cool, i did not get close to "passing the line to which I would be in great trouble" there is a tad more but it doesn't matter - what does is moving forward for the next how long????? It takes how long to get to the end of this - I do not even now what to call the @%$%^$$%# of seperation!!
STBX first proposal - I with I f
I have gone real slow with her as I do realize that today she is bringing in the income and her income keeps this family barely going. Ok i admited i am slow in sinking in but it just doesn't matter - what matters is today going forward....
So there is no joint money left. incomes are split - bills continue to pile. My name is the principle owner of all tthe utilities - I have top level credit rating and I will not loose this (I figure it will be required to do whatever financing I will need after the divorce concidering my limited CPP disability income). I already spent a couple of days a few weeks past staring at my first bill that was overdue with less than $100 in the account. I paid that bill, the two next and I did the right thing by claiming my interest in the remaining few hundred on the 20th when her pay (by automatic electronic transfer every 14 days) was not deposited on the 18th.
Recently I heard suggestions of, cutting the tv satillite back (which I did last year) putting a long distance stop on the phone (we do have a 1500 min a month plan for $5 and we never come close) and a few others that make sense to limit exposure to expenses and each of those options will impact the kids - something I would like to avoid. This is not their fault. and ?????
Enter STBX who last week took into her personal control ALL the money including the RESP accounts (so I can only hope there that it remains the kids as no matter how hard our situation got we never touched the kid's money, the tuition money which was for tuition - never). The STBX didn't bother to come home last night - this after I told her that taking the kids school money was the last straw and she needed to 1 - repay the 1,184.27 from the tuition portion that I paid (1/2 the amount) and she needed to find A DIFFERENT PLACE TO SLEEP. The money I can live with - the sleeping in the same room, same bed - never again. Told her yesterday that she needed to come up with solutions to move forward instead of complaining and the desperate manovering that she has been doing for the last few months.
SHe arrived last night at 4:15 am - things got real heated (I kept my cool, i did not get close to "passing the line to which I would be in great trouble" there is a tad more but it doesn't matter - what does is moving forward for the next how long????? It takes how long to get to the end of this - I do not even now what to call the @%$%^$$%# of seperation!!
STBX first proposal - I with I f
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