Hi All,
Nearing the end of my saga that has dragged 3 years and cost a ridiculous amount of money due to my STBX being so unreasonable, and having an equally unreasonable lawyer. OCL recommended 50/50 of our kids, however my ex played hardball and dragged her feet (kicking and screaming would be more accurate). Recognizing I would not get a trial for 1.5 years, I was advised to agree to 50/50 over a graduated schedule seeing 50/50 reached in 2 years.
I was disappointed my lawyer caved into her hardheadedness, however my priority was the kids and my involvement in their lives. Minutes of Settlement have been signed, however the Court Order has yet to be filed.
What was swept under the rug in all negotiations is the financial aspects of our separation. Our Financial Statements were filed in 2017, and never updated.
My STBX easily owes me about $15,000 in restitution for not paying her share of the mortgage and other things that are easy to prove. I have become aware that she is pocketing all CS into RRSPs to purchase a home of her own (at my expense) and has likely accumulated a nice sum by now.
Can I withhold finalizing the Court Order until she provides me with an updated Financial Statement? I will see that she has financially gained from our separation, etc.. Perhaps provide me with a bit of leverage to negotiate getting to 50/50 faster? My lawyer was so focused on me getting joint custody and 50/50 parenting that the financial aspects of our case got swept under the rug. And my STBX seems all too eager to get the Order finalized as she knows she is getting away with a 'win' in the financial department.
Nearing the end of my saga that has dragged 3 years and cost a ridiculous amount of money due to my STBX being so unreasonable, and having an equally unreasonable lawyer. OCL recommended 50/50 of our kids, however my ex played hardball and dragged her feet (kicking and screaming would be more accurate). Recognizing I would not get a trial for 1.5 years, I was advised to agree to 50/50 over a graduated schedule seeing 50/50 reached in 2 years.
I was disappointed my lawyer caved into her hardheadedness, however my priority was the kids and my involvement in their lives. Minutes of Settlement have been signed, however the Court Order has yet to be filed.
What was swept under the rug in all negotiations is the financial aspects of our separation. Our Financial Statements were filed in 2017, and never updated.
My STBX easily owes me about $15,000 in restitution for not paying her share of the mortgage and other things that are easy to prove. I have become aware that she is pocketing all CS into RRSPs to purchase a home of her own (at my expense) and has likely accumulated a nice sum by now.
Can I withhold finalizing the Court Order until she provides me with an updated Financial Statement? I will see that she has financially gained from our separation, etc.. Perhaps provide me with a bit of leverage to negotiate getting to 50/50 faster? My lawyer was so focused on me getting joint custody and 50/50 parenting that the financial aspects of our case got swept under the rug. And my STBX seems all too eager to get the Order finalized as she knows she is getting away with a 'win' in the financial department.
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