Originally posted by HammerDad
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Please remember to always be offering "mediation". Courts give 2 hours free. Legal Aid Ontario has free mediation.
If communication is not working, offer www.ourfamilywizard.com. Offer to pay both subscriptions. Emphasize that open communication regarding the situation at hand is in the child's best interest.
Collect the access denials and/or demands of supervision. You may require these later. I think a poster made mention of offering parenting schedules, varying access times she could choose from. Get the reasons for the denials .. will she honestly say "Im pissed that you left and the baby is too small"? If so you have a very strong case.
My advice would be to offer a graduated schedule as HD has said. Begin with a few hours here and there. Just have to do your homework.
If what you say is true .. that you simply couldn't live together but there was no abuse, etc... you have every right to see your child. You're on the birth certificate. Many couples split up. That doesn't give the pissed off parent the ability to be gatekeeper of access, demand supervision and the supervisor, etc. It's simply wrong.
Remember. Keep a file of the above items mentioned. Document, document, document.
This is not a war. This is not about blood shed in court. This is about the best interests of the child. Do everything possible to stay out of court. Mediation, settlement offers, separation agreements, exchanging parenting plans, etc.
Only enter that courtroom if you're pushed there. If there's no other choice, as was the case in my situation. All I ever wanted was peace, settlement, to speak like reasonable adults and follow the maximum contact principle.
You want that child in your life. You deserve that child in your life. Do what it takes to have that child in your life.
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