I was involved in a short term heterosexual relationship in 2006. Although I can empathize with the woman's desparation for family and marriage, she is a Brazilian immigrant, as she was approaching 40 years old, I was not desparate for either and told her so. In that her sister/husband/children were moving out of the townhouse she shared financially with them, along with supporting her parents and sister, she told me that she was pregnant, or more consisely, that I was going to be a daddy. I told her emphatically that I was not going to marry her just because she was pregnant and that I DID NOT want to be a daddy, she told me emphatically that she would be a single mother then. She knew about the pregnancy within one month of the apparent conception - from someone who had her menstrual cycle every six weeks. She almost immediately began telling me how much I owed her for the pregnancy in prenatal bills, assuming I made a salary that was 50% higher than I actually was. Of course we split up and, she eventually sued me for child support. The legal bills for me were greater than $10,000 believe it or not.
The legal sparring was very adversarial, the lawyers feasted, and when the numbers, including arrears were "court" settled, I no longer had any interest in ever seeing the child as they granted me 15 minutes every other weekend at the woman's residence. I have resolved to never see the child yet I am still paying $600 per month in child support, tax free to the woman, after tax for me, for something I never had a say in - no rights. I have written several emails to our provincial "legislators" without a response except from Michael Bryant's office who only wanted my address and telephone number (for the Liberals ridiculous website I assume).
Changing the law is of paramount importance to me. Is there not a political lobby group who are attempting to change the outright ludicrousness of this and family law in general. Why do they have an Orwellian FRO contributing to the aiding and abetting of this type of extortion? Have they not read Dr Kruk's studies on children of divorce etc and how they turn out?
Any comments or information sharing would be appreciated.
The legal sparring was very adversarial, the lawyers feasted, and when the numbers, including arrears were "court" settled, I no longer had any interest in ever seeing the child as they granted me 15 minutes every other weekend at the woman's residence. I have resolved to never see the child yet I am still paying $600 per month in child support, tax free to the woman, after tax for me, for something I never had a say in - no rights. I have written several emails to our provincial "legislators" without a response except from Michael Bryant's office who only wanted my address and telephone number (for the Liberals ridiculous website I assume).
Changing the law is of paramount importance to me. Is there not a political lobby group who are attempting to change the outright ludicrousness of this and family law in general. Why do they have an Orwellian FRO contributing to the aiding and abetting of this type of extortion? Have they not read Dr Kruk's studies on children of divorce etc and how they turn out?
Any comments or information sharing would be appreciated.
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