This is not to make you paranoid but you need to understand what can happen and start taking action now. Hopefully you won't need any of it.
If you have not already done so start photocopying everything, bank statements, investments, debt, Kids passports, Birth Certificate, SIN cards, health cards.... EVERYTHING
This is a very delicate phase. You want her to think you don't know anything.
Starting today keep a daily log (journal) of everything that goes on. Keep it factual and emotion free. Who watched the kids and when, who did the homework, who prepared dinner, who did anything.
I highly recommend you at least get a free consultation with a lawyer asap.
I also recommend you buy a personal voice recorder and record everything at all times when you are both home. This cannot be used in court for your divorce but is to protect your ass if she tries to file false DV (Domestic Violence) charges against you. DO NOT TELL HER about it EVER. (Perfectly legal btw)
Open your own bank account and start putting some savings away any way you can. I am not telling you to steal money from joint accounts.
You need to seriously consider how you are going to support yourself on your own starting today.
As soon as she finds out she may have to start paying you large sums of money every month it could get ugly and you'd better be prepared.
Good luck.
If you have not already done so start photocopying everything, bank statements, investments, debt, Kids passports, Birth Certificate, SIN cards, health cards.... EVERYTHING
This is a very delicate phase. You want her to think you don't know anything.
Starting today keep a daily log (journal) of everything that goes on. Keep it factual and emotion free. Who watched the kids and when, who did the homework, who prepared dinner, who did anything.
I highly recommend you at least get a free consultation with a lawyer asap.
I also recommend you buy a personal voice recorder and record everything at all times when you are both home. This cannot be used in court for your divorce but is to protect your ass if she tries to file false DV (Domestic Violence) charges against you. DO NOT TELL HER about it EVER. (Perfectly legal btw)
Open your own bank account and start putting some savings away any way you can. I am not telling you to steal money from joint accounts.
You need to seriously consider how you are going to support yourself on your own starting today.
As soon as she finds out she may have to start paying you large sums of money every month it could get ugly and you'd better be prepared.
Good luck.
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