Back in September I discovered my wife of 7 years was having an affair with my friend. Like every married couple we had problems but we always managed them and had a good life together. A few months prior to her affair we had many stressful changes in our lives, new home, new neighborhood, new school and daycare for our 2 kids and she started working full time with some shift work.
My wife has been dating the other guy ever since but we have still been living under the same roof. I find it's been very hard living with her as I think we both miss each other sometimes. The new guy is extremely jealous of the fact that we still live together and is upset at the fact that he is not allowed on our property or in our home....I think he's unrealistic, why would I want him in our house? The new guy is also more financially stable than I am and has replaced almost everything I have ever purchased her with something more expensive. It makes me sad to look around the house and see things I have bought her go unused because they have been replaced. I have always worked hard for my money whereas this guy lives off money I think he may have inherited years ago.
I went through many different emotions, at first anger, then sadness, then I accepted things, and now, for the last couple of months I'm just wasting away. I don't enjoy anything anymore, I have given up all my hobbies, I feel like I have nothing to look forward to when I wake up. I've gone to a counsellor and it hasn't helped. All I do is come home, spend time with the kids and do what I need to do (laundry, dishes etc) then I go to bed. If she's home in the evening, some nights she'll pack up some clothes and say goodbye and leave to sleep at his house....which is very sad for me.
We just started seeing a marriage counsellor but I really don't think it will help as she seems so involved with this guy. She says she wants us to be back together but refuses to give up the other guy...which even our cousellor says is necessary to rectify things.
Anyhow, just felt like writing this out would help but it hasn't...haha I just feel like a part of me has died with what has happened. I have never been depressed and have always been a happy/fun loving guy but now I never laugh, smile or anything. How do people get through things like this when counselling doesn't help and you don't have friends you can necessarily trust?
My wife has been dating the other guy ever since but we have still been living under the same roof. I find it's been very hard living with her as I think we both miss each other sometimes. The new guy is extremely jealous of the fact that we still live together and is upset at the fact that he is not allowed on our property or in our home....I think he's unrealistic, why would I want him in our house? The new guy is also more financially stable than I am and has replaced almost everything I have ever purchased her with something more expensive. It makes me sad to look around the house and see things I have bought her go unused because they have been replaced. I have always worked hard for my money whereas this guy lives off money I think he may have inherited years ago.
I went through many different emotions, at first anger, then sadness, then I accepted things, and now, for the last couple of months I'm just wasting away. I don't enjoy anything anymore, I have given up all my hobbies, I feel like I have nothing to look forward to when I wake up. I've gone to a counsellor and it hasn't helped. All I do is come home, spend time with the kids and do what I need to do (laundry, dishes etc) then I go to bed. If she's home in the evening, some nights she'll pack up some clothes and say goodbye and leave to sleep at his house....which is very sad for me.
We just started seeing a marriage counsellor but I really don't think it will help as she seems so involved with this guy. She says she wants us to be back together but refuses to give up the other guy...which even our cousellor says is necessary to rectify things.
Anyhow, just felt like writing this out would help but it hasn't...haha I just feel like a part of me has died with what has happened. I have never been depressed and have always been a happy/fun loving guy but now I never laugh, smile or anything. How do people get through things like this when counselling doesn't help and you don't have friends you can necessarily trust?
Comment