I haven't posted here in a dog's age (or maybe a fish's age) but anywho...
My ex was served (or mailed a letter?? I have no idea how they do that) on September 9th according to FRO updates for a Default Hearing on November 8th.
Thus far FRO has done the following (other than trying to get him to contact them to enter into a VAPS - he has ignored letters and changed his phone number of which I was never provided this time)
I know nothing about his employment, but I do know for 100% certain (without proof that could be provided of course) that he is working for cash under the table (construction and farming).
He is more than $6700 in arrears at this time; the last payment that was ever received by FRO was back in late March 2010.
He has never once paid willingly, it's all had to be garnished (quit 2 jobs within a month of the garnishments going through), and then any income tax/GST/EI that he may have had.
Now that he's 'off the grid' as far as an income is concerned, does anyone know what even happens at a default hearing? I know what the website says, but I don't think any of it is realistic in this situation.
Does he have to be there, or can whatever lawyer he scrambles to use represent him?
What if nothing was filed/served in that '10 days' FRO claims on their website?
What if he doesn't provide any financial information?
What if he claims that he can't pay and wants the arrears and the order changed? (Would that not require a motion which I should be served with?)
I suppose there are a lot of variables, but basically it's more than 7 months since any CS has been paid out, he's cancelled 10 consecutive visitation days (12 visitations total considering the other ones just before those that he cancelled with 12 hours notice), he continues to earn more than enough money for him & his g/f to have a home, not one appliance or piece of furniture is older than 3 years, they have taken vacations (this includes taking the 2 children they had together) - and no-one can tell me it's because she works... since she only works P/T at Timmies.
I squeeze every cent I can out of each pay to ensure the kids have the things they need and that the bills are paid, but frankly some help from the other parent who wanted these kids during the 14 year marriage would be nice. Money is tight and I'm pretty much living pay to pay, so many needed items get pushed to the back of the line since I can't get blood out of a stone.
He refuses to contact the kids, and will even lie about it. I have tried to get him to email, message, even call to keep in touch with them, but he refuses unless I withdraw the CS order from FRO and get his license reinstated (he must be sniffing something strong).
The kids do not even speak about him anymore, and they stopped trying to contact him since they get no response; but I'll be damned if I give in to his 'blackmail' - they are his kids too and he's financially responsible whether he likes it or not!
Ok.. so there were questions in the midst of that vent if anyone can find them
My ex was served (or mailed a letter?? I have no idea how they do that) on September 9th according to FRO updates for a Default Hearing on November 8th.
Thus far FRO has done the following (other than trying to get him to contact them to enter into a VAPS - he has ignored letters and changed his phone number of which I was never provided this time)
- His drivers license was suspended on June 18th (which means he cut off all visitation and hasn't bothered with the kids since his last bi-weekly visitation on June 13th)
- They issued yet another Federal deduction order (the 4th since December 2009)
- They reported him to the Credit Bureau (He wouldn't care less about this).
I know nothing about his employment, but I do know for 100% certain (without proof that could be provided of course) that he is working for cash under the table (construction and farming).
He is more than $6700 in arrears at this time; the last payment that was ever received by FRO was back in late March 2010.
He has never once paid willingly, it's all had to be garnished (quit 2 jobs within a month of the garnishments going through), and then any income tax/GST/EI that he may have had.
Now that he's 'off the grid' as far as an income is concerned, does anyone know what even happens at a default hearing? I know what the website says, but I don't think any of it is realistic in this situation.
Does he have to be there, or can whatever lawyer he scrambles to use represent him?
What if nothing was filed/served in that '10 days' FRO claims on their website?
What if he doesn't provide any financial information?
What if he claims that he can't pay and wants the arrears and the order changed? (Would that not require a motion which I should be served with?)
I suppose there are a lot of variables, but basically it's more than 7 months since any CS has been paid out, he's cancelled 10 consecutive visitation days (12 visitations total considering the other ones just before those that he cancelled with 12 hours notice), he continues to earn more than enough money for him & his g/f to have a home, not one appliance or piece of furniture is older than 3 years, they have taken vacations (this includes taking the 2 children they had together) - and no-one can tell me it's because she works... since she only works P/T at Timmies.
I squeeze every cent I can out of each pay to ensure the kids have the things they need and that the bills are paid, but frankly some help from the other parent who wanted these kids during the 14 year marriage would be nice. Money is tight and I'm pretty much living pay to pay, so many needed items get pushed to the back of the line since I can't get blood out of a stone.
He refuses to contact the kids, and will even lie about it. I have tried to get him to email, message, even call to keep in touch with them, but he refuses unless I withdraw the CS order from FRO and get his license reinstated (he must be sniffing something strong).
The kids do not even speak about him anymore, and they stopped trying to contact him since they get no response; but I'll be damned if I give in to his 'blackmail' - they are his kids too and he's financially responsible whether he likes it or not!
Ok.. so there were questions in the midst of that vent if anyone can find them
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