Hi
before I start I just want to thank everyone for your advice and opinions. You all have been very helpful in building my confidence.
My current issue is the transition with my kids on 4pm Saturday afternoons. Transitions used to be fine and my kids (6 boy and 8 girl) would have no problems coming my condo. I have them every Wed, Sat and Sun.
Recently, over the last few months they have been resistant to coming to my house when I pick them up or when they get dropped off on the Saturday transition. (They have no issues on Wednesdays, they are dropped off by the school bus.)
When I pick them up from the ex-wife's house or the designated park, they say they don't want to come and they run and hide. The ex refuses to help get them to the door or help get them in my car. I get frustrated and have to put their coats on and put them in the car myself all while the ex watches. She says she can't physically force them.
After i get them in the car, I'm able to talk them down in 10-15 minutes, but it's painful to have to drive and bring the kids down. After that, the rest of the weekends are great and they're fine/we have fun.
The twist to this is that my ex is trying to change the schedule and wants to take my Saturday. She is claiming the kids are emotionally harmed and don't want to go to me on weekends. I disagree. (on another post, i've stated i'm involved father. i do everything with my kids, vacations, raptors games, skiing, tennis, ROM, AGO, 3d Printing labs, etc)
I feel like i am being set up when i pick up the kids because i have to put them in the car and I have a feeling she's going to use it against me if I have to physically lift the kids kicking and screaming to my car.
Can anyone give me some advice on what my options for the transitions without my ex using it as ammunition to take my Saturday.
thanks again.
before I start I just want to thank everyone for your advice and opinions. You all have been very helpful in building my confidence.
My current issue is the transition with my kids on 4pm Saturday afternoons. Transitions used to be fine and my kids (6 boy and 8 girl) would have no problems coming my condo. I have them every Wed, Sat and Sun.
Recently, over the last few months they have been resistant to coming to my house when I pick them up or when they get dropped off on the Saturday transition. (They have no issues on Wednesdays, they are dropped off by the school bus.)
When I pick them up from the ex-wife's house or the designated park, they say they don't want to come and they run and hide. The ex refuses to help get them to the door or help get them in my car. I get frustrated and have to put their coats on and put them in the car myself all while the ex watches. She says she can't physically force them.
After i get them in the car, I'm able to talk them down in 10-15 minutes, but it's painful to have to drive and bring the kids down. After that, the rest of the weekends are great and they're fine/we have fun.
The twist to this is that my ex is trying to change the schedule and wants to take my Saturday. She is claiming the kids are emotionally harmed and don't want to go to me on weekends. I disagree. (on another post, i've stated i'm involved father. i do everything with my kids, vacations, raptors games, skiing, tennis, ROM, AGO, 3d Printing labs, etc)
I feel like i am being set up when i pick up the kids because i have to put them in the car and I have a feeling she's going to use it against me if I have to physically lift the kids kicking and screaming to my car.
Can anyone give me some advice on what my options for the transitions without my ex using it as ammunition to take my Saturday.
thanks again.
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